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Message: <blockquote data-quote="MoxieFu" data-source="post: 5693302" data-attributes="member: 41849">About ten years ago I was DM'ing a game with a mix of old friends and new. We discussed it at the very beginning and agreed on a story oriented game with a moderate amount of role playing. One of my old friends hadn't played D&D in many years and was very "old school" in style and attitude, what we called hackenslay.A week or two later he brought two new players with him, no discussion before the game. One was also an old friend who had played D&D with us back in the day, and another was totally new to the game. Since the game was not held at my house they were instantly accepted into the group.At that game they very deeply and persistently insulted on of my newer friends. He was playing a female character and they were quite offended by it and made it very clear. My newer friend was playing the character in a very gender-neutral way. He chose the character based on a miniature he had bought and painted. He was very proud of the job he had done painting the mini and just wanted others to see it. That was the entire reason why he chose to play a female and my old friends (and I almost put that word in quotes) just would not let it go. No one else at the table had any problem with it.Needless to say that was my new friend's last game with that group. The campaign continued on the way it had started, story oriented with moderate amounts of RP. For the most part these two acted bored and disinterested but not terribly disruptive. The new guy seemed to be very interested and participated well, seeming to enjoy the game.About 2 or three games later, after the game I was detained by the three of them. I was told in no uncertain terms they didn't like the style of the game. They wanted way more combat and could do without all this "talkey" stuff. The composition of the group had changed and my style was no longer appreciated.Eventually I left the group. We had always had multiple DM's in the past so this was no problem. I am only in contact with one of the people in this group to this day, but I think this was the beginning of the end of some friendships. A few years ago I talked with my old friend who (along with the other old friend he brought with him) about that night he alienated my new friend and he was proud of what he had done. When I told him it had cost me a friend it didn't even seem to register in his mind. In the last year I have only spoken with him on a couple of occasions.I don't think I can blame it all on gaming styles, but it played an important part of me losing a few friends and just a little of my faith in humanity.</blockquote>

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