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<blockquote data-quote="Mamacat" data-source="post: 4045624" data-attributes="member: 60084">OK, from what I'm reading here, people think I should have spoken up sooner, or done so in a more obvious way.&nbsp; And you're probably right.&nbsp; I know the DM noticed on at least two occaisions that my interest was waining, but he tended to blame me for it, instead of looking at the whole situation.&nbsp; And he also blamed my husband for leaving, when my husband never leveled blame at anyone, and just said he wanted to stop playing.As for my husband's reaction, yes, he was aware I was hurt and angry, but I also told him it was OK if he wanted to keep playing.&nbsp; We have a very stressful schedule - we work opposite shifts so one of us is always home with the baby, because we can't afford day care.&nbsp; So, the game was a way for him to relax, etc, and I think he was lothe to give it up, until it just became a chore.And, just to clarify, we actually were in this group for about 5 years - so I became pregnant after we had been playing 2 - 3 years already (but we were playing different games atp, and the DM hadn't gone nutty yet).&nbsp; Also, my daughter loved going to the games, and she &quot;talked&quot; to everyone, and watched the DM's cats, etc.&nbsp; And, towards the end, we had actually switched to gaming at our house.We are looking to start a new group - and, with our planning another baby for next year, we want to find folks who understand that sometimes, things happen, and kids come first.Thanks for the input, everyone!&nbsp;&nbsp; <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin&nbsp; &nbsp; :D"&nbsp; data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" /></blockquote>

[QUOTE="Mamacat, post: 4045624, member: 60084"] OK, from what I'm reading here, people think I should have spoken up sooner, or done so in a more obvious way. And you're probably right. I know the DM noticed on at least two occaisions that my interest was waining, but he tended to blame me for it, instead of looking at the whole situation. And he also blamed my husband for leaving, when my husband never leveled blame at anyone, and just said he wanted to stop playing. As for my husband's reaction, yes, he was aware I was hurt and angry, but I also told him it was OK if he wanted to keep playing. We have a very stressful schedule - we work opposite shifts so one of us is always home with the baby, because we can't afford day care. So, the game was a way for him to relax, etc, and I think he was lothe to give it up, until it just became a chore. And, just to clarify, we actually were in this group for about 5 years - so I became pregnant after we had been playing 2 - 3 years already (but we were playing different games atp, and the DM hadn't gone nutty yet). Also, my daughter loved going to the games, and she "talked" to everyone, and watched the DM's cats, etc. And, towards the end, we had actually switched to gaming at our house. We are looking to start a new group - and, with our planning another baby for next year, we want to find folks who understand that sometimes, things happen, and kids come first. Thanks for the input, everyone! :D [/QUOTE]

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