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Message: <blockquote data-quote="xrpsuzi" data-source="post: 3777442" data-attributes="member: 10675">Side note to HarmonI had this same problem when I first got married. I like cooking. I like cooking for Joe and that is part of how I show my affection for him. He likes my food and he likes that I feel good when I feed him and letting me feed him is part of how he shows his affection for me. That's how I fattened him up so good in such a short time. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />Eventually, we recognized our own and each other's role in the cycle and used that information to make a better cycle--one that promotes us losing weight together.The realization hit me when Joe said something to this effect: "If you don't stop feeding me like this, I'm going to die on your early. Neither of us want that." The way I was showing affection with food was killing him slowly, and once I groked that, the changes started to happen in our daily lives, albeit gradually.If this is something you really want for yourself personally, you may have to have a talk with wife and let here know that this goal would be a lot easier with her help, and for now, all that means is not bringing certain foods into the house or at very least, not bringing those foods to your attention and stashing them somewhere you don't readily see them.Good luck,suzi</blockquote>

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