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Message: <blockquote data-quote="mhacdebhandia" data-source="post: 4856559" data-attributes="member: 18832">It's ludicrous because it wholly mischaracterises the problem as "romantic relationships", rather than the much more correct "people who can't keep their personal problems from interfering with the game".The smoker player I mentioned no longer plays in my game because he broke up with his girlfriend, who also plays in the game, and they decided between them that she should be the one to stay in. Not awkward. Not a problem. Yes, had they not been dating then neither one would have had to leave the game, but who gives a damn? There will be other games (especially for him, which is why he decided to be the one to leave); especially as my friends and I get older, there are going to be more and more reasons why people have to quit games.Six years ago, when I was in the game that was negatively affected by the behaviour of a player and her DM boyfriend? That player was a problem in every game, regardless of whether or not her boyfriend was running it. She was just a needy, selfish player who wanted attention paid to her character's story, and got bored and angry whenever she felt like she wasn't kicking arse or otherwise succeeding without much challenge. She didn't have to be living with the GM to be a problem in his game; likewise, his indulgence of her <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /><img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> would have happened much the same way if they'd never dated, because he was the kind of DM who responded much too readily to whining about boredom or being "useless".They were the problem, not their romantic relationship.These days, I don't play with people immature enough to bring their personal problems to the table. They can obviously affect the game on one level - my friend deciding to quit is an obvious example - but adults know how to minimise otherwise unavoidable disruptions like that.</blockquote>

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