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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Ruin Explorer" data-source="post: 9636257" data-attributes="member: 18">As someone with severe ADHD I can tell you that are, as a matter of fact rather than opinion, dead wrong if you believe this is universally true. I wanted to do my homework/coursework, and got completely stressed out about not doing so (whereas kids handing in complete drivel but on time were totally chill), but ADHD is very good at preventing you from doing so. I generally got good grades (with a lot of cajoling and reminding and extended deadlines) but punishment never helped me (except ironically, for one year where in detention they just made us do the coursework, but most of the time they had other ideas which provided no benefit).I'm sure there are some kids where not caring is the case, but it's definitely not universal and I wonder if it's even typical. In fact I suspect most kids not handing stuff in on time comes down to either ADHD or similar, or parents who prevent the kids from doing homework or make it very hard for them to do, often by demanding chores* or actual work from them, actively discouraging them from doing schoolwork by demeaning it or blocking them from doing it in other ways, or just by causing intense stress and upset for the kids. I guess that is a respect issue in a sense, but not on the part of the kids, rather the parents. I suspect "kid couldn't bothered because they genuinely don't care about the consequences, despite having a good home environment" is a pretty rare situation, at least in the UK and US.It sounds like you're doing a good job as a parent, but you shouldn't think other parents are necessarily behaving similarly.* = For example, at early secondary school I had a friend whose parents, if he sat down to do homework, saw this as him having "free time", so almost immediately told him to "stop sitting around" and help with chores, and if he got done with the chores, which often took hours, they'd demand he "stop being antisocial" and come and watch TV with them, instead of letting him finish his homework. When I stayed over, they let me do my homework just fine, but they kept doing this to him. The parents themselves also didn't seem like they'd do that, like they seemed outwardly responsible/reasonable.</blockquote>

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