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Message: <blockquote data-quote="PrinceZane" data-source="post: 2402636" data-attributes="member: 24195">Solving the no show...I was DM of our group for a little bit and we had a bad problem of this.  After a week or 2 of struggling I started a reform for making things better.  Since then the only time someone has missed was illness or family emergency, except for 1 guy who has suffered both times.First, I told everyone to meet a few minutes early because I wanted to go over some stuff for the "new campain".  I drew up a nice manager-to-employee type of speech saying basically, "you don't show up for work, you get on probation" meaning you get one strike on your record (assuming its an 'unexcused absence').  If you get 3 strikes total, then your out.  Basically, it's not worth the other people and myself as DM to have to keep changing the way things are and such because "someone" keeps missing.  We also had a problem of some people getting distracted or watching tv - basically just going through the motions. "I do whatever the other fighter is doing" without looking away from his distraction.  Being the "rear end" that I can be, we had a unanimous agreement that it wasn't fair to everyone else who was trying to have fun etc, and if it came down to it, just dropping the person out of the group.  They can watch, but if they become the distraction then they'll no longer be allowed to show up.  That pretty much caught their attention and attendance and participation went way up.  Since then I've had everyone come up to me individually saying how much better things were and how much more fun it was.It can be hard telling a good friend "You can't play with me/us" but you have to think is dealing with 1 issue worth everyone else being pulled down too.  Find whatever words or tone fits you best, but being blunt should get the attention across.  If it doesn't, I suggest dropping them or finding a new group if they're all against you.  There's no point in you fighting/dealing with it if there's no sign of hope.   <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f641.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":(" title="Frown    :("  data-smilie="3"data-shortname=":(" /></blockquote>

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