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<blockquote data-quote="Thunderfoot" data-source="post: 6236670" data-attributes="member: 34175">I would say there are a myriad of things that have caused this &quot;phenomenon&quot; of prolonged adolescence; however, I think the chiefest of these would be parenting techniques.&nbsp; I am the oldest of 6 kids in my current family (I have one biological sibling and 4 step-siblings).&nbsp; I left home at 18, got married, joined the Army and never looked back, my younger sister (biological) got married twice, joined a cult and then drifted for years (we both graduated in the 80s).&nbsp; My oldest step-brother left home and went to college, married his high school sweetheart, he got his masters in mathematics and she her doctorate in Psychology.&nbsp; The other 3 have been... less than successful.&nbsp; (they all graduated in the late 90s early 00s) You could easily point to &quot;first-child&quot; syndrome as we are both the &quot;first biological&quot; children in these scenarios.&nbsp; You could point out different parenting techniques over the years by all the parents involved. You could point out that the step-children's biological mother is totally F)*$%)&nbsp; nuts, (no really, I've met mental patients I felt more comfortable around), but I think it has a little more to do with the resolve of the persons involved.&nbsp; We each make choices, those that have &quot;easiest road&quot; are usually the ones that hoed that row the hardest.&nbsp; IOW, why worry?&nbsp; The cream will always rise to the top, not because they are the best, but because they work hard to get there.&nbsp; I don't think there is any reason to worry about the number of &quot;adolescent adults&quot; but more the lack of &quot;mature children&quot;.&nbsp; My opinion is it's just gotten easier to ignore the hard work needed to succeed and just &quot;get by&quot; in this world rather than an actual &quot;dumbing-down&quot; of society as a whole.&nbsp; Do modern &quot;children&quot; as a whole act &quot;less mature&quot; than generation that came before; probably, but until society stops rewarding the lowest common denominator (politically, socially, etc/) is there really any reason to try?THAT is probably a better question.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Thunderfoot, post: 6236670, member: 34175"] I would say there are a myriad of things that have caused this "phenomenon" of prolonged adolescence; however, I think the chiefest of these would be parenting techniques. I am the oldest of 6 kids in my current family (I have one biological sibling and 4 step-siblings). I left home at 18, got married, joined the Army and never looked back, my younger sister (biological) got married twice, joined a cult and then drifted for years (we both graduated in the 80s). My oldest step-brother left home and went to college, married his high school sweetheart, he got his masters in mathematics and she her doctorate in Psychology. The other 3 have been... less than successful. (they all graduated in the late 90s early 00s) You could easily point to "first-child" syndrome as we are both the "first biological" children in these scenarios. You could point out different parenting techniques over the years by all the parents involved. You could point out that the step-children's biological mother is totally F)*$%) nuts, (no really, I've met mental patients I felt more comfortable around), but I think it has a little more to do with the resolve of the persons involved. We each make choices, those that have "easiest road" are usually the ones that hoed that row the hardest. IOW, why worry? The cream will always rise to the top, not because they are the best, but because they work hard to get there. I don't think there is any reason to worry about the number of "adolescent adults" but more the lack of "mature children". My opinion is it's just gotten easier to ignore the hard work needed to succeed and just "get by" in this world rather than an actual "dumbing-down" of society as a whole. Do modern "children" as a whole act "less mature" than generation that came before; probably, but until society stops rewarding the lowest common denominator (politically, socially, etc/) is there really any reason to try? THAT is probably a better question. [/QUOTE]

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