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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Celtavian" data-source="post: 1072429" data-attributes="member: 5834">The only real answer to this question is that "we're guys, its how many of us are used to acting with each other."PC Answer: Insecure guy. He is uncomfortable and perhaps offended by the presence of the female gamer. If its a DM, he is probably threatened by all the attention you will receive from the other gamers.Non-PC answer: He's a dick. Guy prejudice against females. Probably thinks that by passing off your dislike of his behavior as female neurosis, he can make it seem like he did nothing wrong to his fellow male gamers. Then they can all laugh at you and make you feel even more uncomfortable possibly causing you to leave. Common trick.This comes down to breeding and testosterone. Men are taught to be competitive and they are testosterone driven. If they are young men, they will often spend time debating one another for no other reason than to compete. Words, games, work, etc, etc, we are bred to compete. Even guys that seem nice engage in this kind of competition. Its a combination of the male nature and socialization.Don't take it too seriously. Once a debate is over, win or lose, the guy will most likely forget about it and move on to something else. He won't care that you agreed or disagreed with him, he just wanted to debate at the time. Most of the time, if you blow it off, so will the guy.See answer to number 3. Don't take any of it too seriously. Really, just blow it off. To the majority of guys, debating and wisecracks are just a form of social interaction. Same way girls socialize a certain way as well.Men are used to arguing and talking about "important" subjects. They like to convert to their way of thinking as a battle using words for dominance. The best way to deal with such things is to ignore the male until he shuts up. Tell him directly, none of this "I feel..." or "I think..." stuff. Just say I don't like this form of behavior, and please discontinue it in my presence, or just ignore it until they shut up.I also recommend that you occasionally throw a tantrum or shoot wisecracks back at the guy. Don't cry, it makes you look very bad to males. You'll get sympathy, but not respect. If they are really bothering you, get real pissed off and start yelling at the offending male asking him if he wants to fight. (If he tries to fight you, he'll look stupid. No one looks tough hitting girls.) This is all coming from a male who has dealt with and continues to deal with the situations you listed often, and is sometimes the culprit initiating them. Its common male behavior. All males do it to one degree or another and in one form or another. The situations improve with maturity as we gain control over our testosterone which can negatively affect our moods and behavior. I liken it to two male rams butting horns for no other reason than it feels good to do so. Just in the civilized world of man, we use words.</blockquote>

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