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Message: <blockquote data-quote="physicscarp" data-source="post: 1072995" data-attributes="member: 7207">I've skimmed over a lot of this thread, but this portion of Djeta's post caught my attention, because I've been in this situation before.  I will be the first to admit that on Friday night, when I go to my friend's house to game, we are primarily getting together to spend time hanging out.  Gaming is what we do to hang out, and we always focus our energy on that, but Friday is the guy's night out, where we can take a break from every other aspect of our lives and spend some time together having fun.  Friday is definitely off limits to any female players, not because we game, but because it's Friday.  We actually like and get along with all of the girlfriends and wives, and do other things with them, so my case is slightly different.  On Sunday's though, I go play with a different group of people, still have fun, and we have a female palyer.  No problems.  If we started playing another game on Thursday nights, nobody (including the Friday night group) would care if female gamers joined.  Now, as for Djeta's experience, she claims the guy's involved were1. immature and not used to being around women Could be.  You know them better than I do, so I'll take your word for it.  It's uncalled for, and is severly going to hinder them in the future.  Take some small consolation in that.2. Jealous that I was "stealing" their DM away most of the time and angry that I had dared infringe upon their last guys only thing.Well, this is the heart of the problem.  These guys are friends and occasionally want to spend time together sans anyone else.  And I do mean anyone (family, girlfriends, pets, coworkers, the Pope, etc.)  If this gaming time was the only time they got to do that, and your decision to play interfered with that, I believe they have a right to be upset.  Imagine trying to spend a romantic evening with your spouse and having your gaming buddies showing up at the door.  In this case, you'd have every right to be jealous as well.  3. Angry that the guy dared ask if I could play. Here we have their reaction to what they perceived as an intrusion.  Anger is quite excessive.  I'd prefer a polite, "Hey, this is guy's night isn't it?"  Their response suggests that they were immature.Is this a common occurence for other groups?  How many gaming groups are guy's/girl's night out groups?  And is this okay in other people's eyes?  I like my guys night and I wouldn't trade it for anything because these are my friends.  But I also like Sunday nights and the different experiences that I get to have there.Carp</blockquote>

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