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Message: <blockquote data-quote="eryndel" data-source="post: 1073088" data-attributes="member: 13120">Well, I'll throw in my 2 cents into the debate.I think one thing that might be getting lost in the argument is that there is no absolute set of gaming etiquette.  In the end, each group defines basic rules of protocol among their members.  I'm a guy who's been in all girl groups, all guy groups, and mixed groups and there has been as much variety in group protocol between different mixed groups as there was between the all girl and the all guy group.  I would hesitate calling the group Afrodyte is playing with "jerks" because of the ambiguity of the term. I would posit that they aren't accustomed to having a girl in the group and are prehaps being insensitive.  There might be other sources of hostility as well. If the concerns you've brought to the list have at all been vocalized to the group, I'm not surprised that some members have been irritated.  Any person (guy or girl) who enters an existing group situation and expect changes made to accomodate them will often find members of the group to be irritated at the changes.One thing that I haven't seen yet brought up is the Gamer Girlfriend Syndrome.  This might explain some of the hostility.  There used to be a large number of women entering the hobby who were interested in the game solely to do something with their boyfriends.  I don't think this is as common nowadays, but it the late eighties an early nineties a lot of the girls in my groups came in by dating one of the members. In a lot of cases, these women barely were interested in learning the rules and relied on they S.O.'s to explain things for them.  These women were not well liked by the groups in question because they tended to drag the game and occupied their boyfriend's attention away from the game. I'm not suggesting anyone who here is one of these women; I highly doubt anyone who fits the profile above would be so interested in the game to frequent these forums. Most I knew left the hobby after leaving their boyfriends.  However, it made a lot of groups I knew hesitant to let women into their games, and likely made it hard for women to be treated fairly. It might be some of this that you are getting from your group.Considering this thread is on page 4, I would have to say... yes <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

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