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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Afrodyte" data-source="post: 1073345" data-attributes="member: 8713">a few misunderstandings going onThis thread has been at many things: frustrating, enlightening, amusing, and just plain interesting.  Like a previous poster, I am thankful that this thread has not degenerated into a flame war, which says much about the maturity of the people on this board.  Bravo!But, there is a huge factual error that keeps being repeated that should be addressed.  My initial post is not related to a particular group.  Rather, I am speaking from cumulative gaming experiences I've had over the years with different groups.  Coincidentally, these groups have mostly been composed of men with a "GM's girlfriend" or "player's SO" sprinkled here and there, but also a couple of girls like Buttercup who'd game regardless of whether a boyfriend, fiance, or husband were involved. Because I'm not speaking of a current or particular group, I can't act on many of the suggestions you have put forth.  Suffice it to say, though, that had I been talking about my current groups, I would not have posted anything.  I would have dealt with the situation and moved on.  I was mostly curious as to:1.  Whether my experiences were coincidental or part of a larger pattern.2.  Whether my observations have basis in how men and women interact (and if so, how) or if there is some other explanation for the things I experienced (them being jerks, just guys, unique personalities, some other explanation, or a combination of these), and 3.  If they are part of a larger pattern of varying styles of communicating (based on gender, subculture, or what have you), how to best deal with it.As far as how I make it harder for myself, most of the people who have made assumptions about my personality are, not surprisingly, way off the mark.  I'm dealing with my personal issues on my own, and I think that burdening you with the boring details would be tantamount to crimes against humanity.</blockquote>

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