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<blockquote data-quote="DarrenGMiller" data-source="post: 2389927" data-attributes="member: 23174">Those seem to be a fact of DMing.&nbsp; I know that not everybody goes through it, but many do.&nbsp; My advice: Don't quit DMing.&nbsp; Take a break.&nbsp; Think about what you want out of your game.&nbsp; Think about how often you want to game.&nbsp; Think about what behaviors you want or don't want at the table.&nbsp; Then, go about looking for players who want what you want in a game.&nbsp; I didn't think it was possible to find them and had dismissed all of the &quot;find new players&quot; advice I had gotten on messageboards and blamed myself.&nbsp; Finally, I reassessed and decided to &quot;take back my game.&quot;&nbsp; Sure, it is your job to keep your players interested, that is part of DMing, but it is not your job to cater to their every whim and desire.&nbsp; I was gearing my game so much towards what my players wanted that I was not thinking about what I wanted in my game.&nbsp; Stick to your guns.&nbsp; These players are out there and some of them are probably in your group right now.&nbsp; Have an honest discussion about the type of game you want to run and find out if your players want to play in it.&nbsp; Don't game together just because you have been gaming with them for x years.&nbsp; If your gaming interests don't line up, then don't game together, because it will cause conflict eventually if you can't line up your preferences.&nbsp;I know this is harsh, but EVERYONE at the table should enjoy the game, not just your players.&nbsp;DM</blockquote>

[QUOTE="DarrenGMiller, post: 2389927, member: 23174"] Those seem to be a fact of DMing. I know that not everybody goes through it, but many do. My advice: Don't quit DMing. Take a break. Think about what you want out of your game. Think about how often you want to game. Think about what behaviors you want or don't want at the table. Then, go about looking for players who want what you want in a game. I didn't think it was possible to find them and had dismissed all of the "find new players" advice I had gotten on messageboards and blamed myself. Finally, I reassessed and decided to "take back my game." Sure, it is your job to keep your players interested, that is part of DMing, but it is not your job to cater to their every whim and desire. I was gearing my game so much towards what my players wanted that I was not thinking about what I wanted in my game. Stick to your guns. These players are out there and some of them are probably in your group right now. Have an honest discussion about the type of game you want to run and find out if your players want to play in it. Don't game together just because you have been gaming with them for x years. If your gaming interests don't line up, then don't game together, because it will cause conflict eventually if you can't line up your preferences. I know this is harsh, but EVERYONE at the table should enjoy the game, not just your players. DM [/QUOTE]

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