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Message: <blockquote data-quote="BlackSilver" data-source="post: 2071796" data-attributes="member: 22250">My apologies, Whimsical, if there was a misunderstanding, as you may well realize message boards seem a poor forum for convey some forms of communication correctly.  Again, please accept my apologies for the misunderstanding and know that it was not intentional.  I can accept that you value your friends, that you have good friends, and that you have good communication with them but consider this- if one of your friends showed up one day and was ready to play, but you felt that he was a little darker then normal.  You ask and he says that nothing is wrong, and makes jokes about it, but you still feel this darkness of emotion following him.  Every week you feel that darkening emotion more and more, and you inquire about it, but he brushes you off every time.  A year has passed and now its starting to effect the game and he is being more dark, more ‘something you can’t put your finger on,’ would you cut him because of that, because he was trying to keep the truth from hurting you too or would you tell him- "man, you have been getting more and more angry or something I and I keep asking you, but you keep brushing me off, its affecting the game, we need to talk."In what you said about the friend starting to act like one, you are correct, however consider that he may not see the problem, may not realize that he is bring a problem to the table.I mean no disrespect, and do not need an answer to this, I just want those out there with the “cut,” attitude to think- “ask,” before “cut,” it might improve everyone’s understanding of their friends problems.Harmon wrote in one post something that I found of interest- it was something about apologizing even when you are not at fault, (sorry I am short on time and running late, but I wished to get this out on the boards).  When a friend believes that they have been seen as causing some problem in a relationship, though they do not think they have, they should show that they are a friend by tucking their pride and say- “I am sorry.”  If this apology is accepted then healing can begin.  If no one yields then problems will be left unfinished, cause greater problems and perhaps end the relationship.Harmon it sounds had some problems that I do not believe he thought he should apologize for yet he did, his friend/player did not accept the apology, and what sounds like the most harmful of all- the friend/player, did not extend an apology in kind.A “dude, I am sorry,” goes oh, so far in repairing damaged relationships.Thank you all for your thoughts and please, take no offense by anything I write here, it is not meant in an offensive fashion, I am seeking the answer to a question I have.</blockquote>

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