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<blockquote data-quote="Acquana" data-source="post: 2617211" data-attributes="member: 1616"><p><strong>Bitter and Jaded</strong></p><p></p><p>I'm really sorry to hear things aren't as good as they could be ... I hate to admit I can probably empathize with the girls you're with, but that's because I'm horribly bitter and jaded. And speaking from the point of view of such, it's fairly obvious the worst in question had to deal with a lot of crap at some point or another in her life. If after this amount of time around you she's still doing giving you hassle, then you must remind her a lot of someone that hurt her. (Now remember, that's just a theory, but one from experience)</p><p></p><p>The one thing I note is that you consider this just a hobby. And a lot of people don't. This may be a serious social thing, a vent for an otherwise shy group of girls. It's not something some people do with surface friends. Not that it's a problem with <em>you,</em> just that it's a problem with doing something they think is done with people they trust more ... with someone they, well ... don't. </p><p></p><p>Thus "keeping it a secret" may be a bit of an insult. Even though you've made it clear it's nothing of the sort, that just may be how a few of them see it--that you don't appreciate their company enough to become better friends than just roleplaying once a week or something.</p><p></p><p>If you want my honest advice ... and I know it's kinda hard to do ... don't just talk to the rude girl on the level of handling a problem with some chick you know, handle her like a friend. Remind her you're nothing like the people who (probably) hurt her, try to find out what the real issue is, and show her that she needs to be as willing to accept different people as you are. </p><p></p><p>If you're not up for being honest friends with them, then maybe a new, more casual group is in order. Again, it's just my hypothesis. Good luck, and remember that no one has the right to punish you for something you didn't do to them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Acquana, post: 2617211, member: 1616"] [b]Bitter and Jaded[/b] I'm really sorry to hear things aren't as good as they could be ... I hate to admit I can probably empathize with the girls you're with, but that's because I'm horribly bitter and jaded. And speaking from the point of view of such, it's fairly obvious the worst in question had to deal with a lot of crap at some point or another in her life. If after this amount of time around you she's still doing giving you hassle, then you must remind her a lot of someone that hurt her. (Now remember, that's just a theory, but one from experience) The one thing I note is that you consider this just a hobby. And a lot of people don't. This may be a serious social thing, a vent for an otherwise shy group of girls. It's not something some people do with surface friends. Not that it's a problem with [I]you,[/I] just that it's a problem with doing something they think is done with people they trust more ... with someone they, well ... don't. Thus "keeping it a secret" may be a bit of an insult. Even though you've made it clear it's nothing of the sort, that just may be how a few of them see it--that you don't appreciate their company enough to become better friends than just roleplaying once a week or something. If you want my honest advice ... and I know it's kinda hard to do ... don't just talk to the rude girl on the level of handling a problem with some chick you know, handle her like a friend. Remind her you're nothing like the people who (probably) hurt her, try to find out what the real issue is, and show her that she needs to be as willing to accept different people as you are. If you're not up for being honest friends with them, then maybe a new, more casual group is in order. Again, it's just my hypothesis. Good luck, and remember that no one has the right to punish you for something you didn't do to them. [/QUOTE]
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