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<blockquote data-quote="stevelabny" data-source="post: 2617217" data-attributes="member: 9298">Nerdabee? Heh.If I was in your group, I would not only mock you by calling you a wannabe, I would outright refuse to play with you unless you changed. A few other responses got to the heart of it, but didn't call you out on it.If you are too ashamed to admit to &quot;normies&quot;&nbsp; (muggles? mundanes?) that you game... you are indirectly saying that you are ashamed of these girls as friends. That is beyond RUDE. Sure you're talking a good game, trying to learn the rules and insisting you want to play with them, but since you are ashamed of the game and the girls, it rings completely hollow.I've rallied against closet-gaming&nbsp; on EN World a few times, but this actually does a great deal to explain why. If you're embarassed to admit that you hang out with me, I DON'T WANT TO HANG OUT WITH YOU. &nbsp;The &quot;annoying&quot; geek girl is&nbsp; guessing that if you lie to your boyfriend about who you are, you could very well be lying to her also. Why should she trust you? You also said that these are the girls you &quot;used to&quot; not want to be caught dead with, and you used to pick on geeks yourself. (did you ever pick on these girls specifically? that could also explain their problem with you) This is something I wouldn't admit to gamers. That's the equivalent of telling a gay person that you used to gaybash or a black person that you used to be in the KKK. If you have truly overcome your geek-bashing, there is no need to rub it in the face of those you used to hurt.And finally, while sometimes gaming groups don't hang out with each other away from the table because of schedules or families or other valid reasons,&nbsp; if you don't hang out with each other outside of the game because you don't like each other and have absolutely nothing else in common... you shouldn't be gaming with each other. Period.&nbsp; Gaming IS social, and if you don't like each other, you can't game together.I'm shocked and appalled at how easy the other posters have been on you. You requested advice and while this reply might seem a bit rough, its honest and probably along the lines of what the girl calling you a nerdabee is thinking.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="stevelabny, post: 2617217, member: 9298"] Nerdabee? Heh. If I was in your group, I would not only mock you by calling you a wannabe, I would outright refuse to play with you unless you changed. A few other responses got to the heart of it, but didn't call you out on it. If you are too ashamed to admit to "normies" (muggles? mundanes?) that you game... you are indirectly saying that you are ashamed of these girls as friends. That is beyond RUDE. Sure you're talking a good game, trying to learn the rules and insisting you want to play with them, but since you are ashamed of the game and the girls, it rings completely hollow. I've rallied against closet-gaming on EN World a few times, but this actually does a great deal to explain why. If you're embarassed to admit that you hang out with me, I DON'T WANT TO HANG OUT WITH YOU. The "annoying" geek girl is guessing that if you lie to your boyfriend about who you are, you could very well be lying to her also. Why should she trust you? You also said that these are the girls you "used to" not want to be caught dead with, and you used to pick on geeks yourself. (did you ever pick on these girls specifically? that could also explain their problem with you) This is something I wouldn't admit to gamers. That's the equivalent of telling a gay person that you used to gaybash or a black person that you used to be in the KKK. If you have truly overcome your geek-bashing, there is no need to rub it in the face of those you used to hurt. And finally, while sometimes gaming groups don't hang out with each other away from the table because of schedules or families or other valid reasons, if you don't hang out with each other outside of the game because you don't like each other and have absolutely nothing else in common... you shouldn't be gaming with each other. Period. Gaming IS social, and if you don't like each other, you can't game together. I'm shocked and appalled at how easy the other posters have been on you. You requested advice and while this reply might seem a bit rough, its honest and probably along the lines of what the girl calling you a nerdabee is thinking. [/QUOTE]

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