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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Elf Witch" data-source="post: 4130802" data-attributes="member: 9037">A couple of other points made from people about his situation.I feel very sorry for him he is a great friend. He never drives to the game and both my roommate and I try and help out with the driving issues with his wife. My roommate takes her shopping on the weekends and I rescheduled my nail appointment to be right before hers so I can pick her up. We have another friend who helps with driving her to her eye appointments if they don't fall on a day her husband is off. He works every other weekend so he does get weekdays off.I have spent a lot of time being a listener to his problems.All of us have bent over backwards to deal with his crankiness at the table including his wife who is really going through hell. She the one going blind she is facing losing all her hobbies she has painted minis since the early 80s she does needlework and other crafts she is facing losing everything she loves.She was having issues with her first character so we talked and she switched to a sorcerer.I have talked to the player of the bard. I have given him magic items. The party is third level and his wealth levels are higher than anyone else in the game. He has the only magic weapon so far in the game.  He has several wands.He does not want to summon monsters to help he sees himself as swashbuckler to help him with that I gave him gloves of dex. One of the issues is the way he built his character he rolled some great scores but he had one 8. In my game after you roll you roll a d4 and you can add that roll to any stat either all of the roll are split. He rolled a 4. Instead of bringing that 8 up to at least a 10 he choose to use it elsewhere and then to compund matters he put that 8 in con.I and everyone else at the table tried to talk him out of that move pointing out that an 8 in con was going to hurt his hit points and that was not a good idea if he wanted to actually get into melee.As for his skill points he won't listen to any advice from me. I have offered several times to let him redo his skills and put more into things like diplomacy, disguise two areas he likes to use a lot. He has put a lot of skill ponts into cross class skills like forgery, ride, handle animal and he has put some skill points in almost every knowledge skill.It is like he is deliberately shooting himself in the foot with his choices and he won't listen to me when I try and give advice on how to make the character more stronger. Instead he blames the system for not allowing him to design the character exactly like he wants. I swear if I hear one more time how the hero system would let him do this I will scream.As I have told him several times I am a novice DM I don't feel comfortable running a system I don't own and have only ever played once and that was in 1987.This is my first game as a DM and I want everyone to have fun so I have tried to patch his problems with magic items. This has lead to two problems one his wealth levels are to high and the rest of the players are starting to get a little resentful over this so to be fair I should bring their wealth levels up to his but then I feel as if the game is getting away from me.I don't want to kick him out of the game he says it is his one escape and I don't want to cause his wife anymore unhappiness by making her lose the game. She loves the game. We play every other saturday and she writes four and five page character journals after each game. She has told me that when she talks to her husband he says he loves the world and his character but then he goes into how much he hates the mechanics of his character.To be very honest I don't see a solution to this. I can't deal with the phone calls and emails from him that I deal with after every game. It is really starting to suck the fun out the game for me not to mention playing havoc with my self confidence.I am not going to switch to the hero system and he has got to accept that. I have suggested putting my game on hold and letting him run a hero system game so that I could learn the system and so could the other two players. He said he didn't have time.If I kick him out I am afraid of what it will do to our friendship he is very moody right now and if he is kicked out then I punish his wife who just happens to be one my closest friends.I just stop the game make some excuse that I can't DM right now which punishes everyone.The other thing I could do is start rolling his diplomacy checks myself and fudge the results and fudge the results when he is in melee so that he is being missed far more than he is and limit how much damage he is taking. I just need a way to do this so the other players don't realize it. I can't give him more to do because if I do that he will always be in the spotlight and the other players won't get a chance to be.He did ask to be allowed to play a gestalt bard/beguiler. He thinks that would fix a lot of his problems. I am not sure what to do. Would it be fair to the other players? Should I let all the players play gestalt characters? My guts tells me that if I do that the power of the game would notch a lot higher and I am not sure that I can handle that as a DM.</blockquote>

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