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<blockquote data-quote="Chimera" data-source="post: 4132069" data-attributes="member: 2002">Elfwitch;Sometimes you can do everything right, you can go above and beyond the call of duty and put yourself out more than you have any right to do....and still lose the battle.The man is looking for excuses to quit, to complain, to be unhappy.&nbsp; Anything and everything you do makes no net difference at the end of the day.There comes a time when you, for your own sake, acknowledging that you're going to lose the battle and that you've injured yourself more than enough in a futile attempt to turn things around, have to give up control of the situation and let things go.&nbsp; To accept defeat.Don't do any more here.&nbsp; If he asks for more, please don't just give it to him.&nbsp; Instead, ask him honestly if it's going to make any real difference.&nbsp; Point out that everything you've already given him in an effort to make him happy hasn't done that.&nbsp; Point out that the whole thing is making YOU unhappy and bothering everyone else.&nbsp; Then put it back on his shoulders by telling him that he has to decide to be happy or unhappy, but you can't make him happy by making yourself and everyone else unhappy.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Chimera, post: 4132069, member: 2002"] [b]Elfwitch[/b]; Sometimes you can do everything right, you can go above and beyond the call of duty and put yourself out more than you have any right to do....and still lose the battle. The man is looking for excuses to quit, to complain, to be unhappy. Anything and everything you do makes no net difference at the end of the day. There comes a time when you, for your own sake, acknowledging that you're going to lose the battle and that you've injured yourself more than enough in a futile attempt to turn things around, have to give up control of the situation and let things go. To accept defeat. Don't do any more here. If he asks for more, please don't just give it to him. Instead, ask him honestly if it's going to make any real difference. Point out that everything you've already given him in an effort to make him happy hasn't done that. Point out that the whole thing is making YOU unhappy and bothering everyone else. Then put it back on his shoulders by telling him that he has to decide to be happy or unhappy, but you can't make him happy by making yourself and everyone else unhappy. [/QUOTE]

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