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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Psion" data-source="post: 309230" data-attributes="member: 172">As others have said, it really depends on what the REAL issue is. Seasong has said a mouthful on that score, so I won't go that deep into it. But the most basic possible issues are:- spending time with her / giving her enough attention- control / fear- bias against gamingSo the first thing to really do is why she resents gaming.Is time together a concern? How much time do you spend gaming? Gaming can be a very obsessive hobby, and if you do spend a lot of time gaming or working on gaming, perhaps you should consider the fact that she might have a point.Does she have religious reasons or cultural convictions against gaming? If religious, make sure she really understands where her religion REALLY stands, and not just make some assumptions based on what she overheard somewhere. For example, my wife assumed for a long time that our Church had something against gaming and we were doing it on the sly (not that she ever had a problem with me playing even when she thought that -- she was always content to let me be me.) When she started to become involved with online communities, she found out that our Church (LDS, if you care) have never taken a stance against gaming.If she is buying into the media and cultural tales of geekiness and fringe activities allegedly associated with RPGs, reassure her, show her the strengths of RPGs, and get her to understand. The case of how "childish" some women see RPGs as being is similar -- show her how it can be an intellectually stimulating passtime not unlike theater, and is head-and-shoulders above the maturity of slugging down cold ones at the local sports bar while whooping at the latest ball game.It's really a very personal issue -- how to approach it depends on the state of your relationship and the truth of what is really bugging her.One caution though. I've heard a few tales of people whose wives have forced their husbands to quit gaming. That, too, is a personal call about values. But consider this: if you have a g/f who is continually trying to remodel and reshape you, where does it stop? If that is the case, you might do well to part ways and find a woman who can love you, and not just love her vision of you. That's a tough call to make when you are a young man with no other avenues to turn to, but in some cases it's the correct life choice when you drink in issues much bigger than gaming.</blockquote>

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