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<blockquote data-quote="Psion" data-source="post: 310918" data-attributes="member: 172">Re: Re: Re: When your significant other resents gamingRight, but that's not the sort of thing I am talking about. It certainly is possible to become too obsessive about gaming (and I think I was that way not too long ago) and neglect your other responsibilities.What I am talking about is the &quot;remodeller&quot; type of SO personality model who is out to remake their SO and remove any little trait that might not fit their image of what their SO &quot;should&quot; be, but which really has little or nothing to do with being responsible.As an example, I was quite lighthearted in my youth. While I was joking around with my g/f of the day, she said &quot;Don't joke around that's not you.&quot; I considered the statement for a moment and said &quot;actually no, it pretty much is me.&quot; Redefining my personality to fit some image she had of what I &quot;should&quot; be was not something I was willing to put up with. In the end, such efforts are usually doomed to failure, because there are some personality traits that you can't and shouldn't change about a person, and that in essence don't NEED to be change.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Psion, post: 310918, member: 172"] [b]Re: Re: Re: When your significant other resents gaming[/b] Right, but that's not the sort of thing I am talking about. It certainly is possible to become too obsessive about gaming (and I think I was that way not too long ago) and neglect your other responsibilities. What I am talking about is the "remodeller" type of SO personality model who is out to remake their SO and remove any little trait that might not fit their image of what their SO "should" be, but which really has little or nothing to do with being responsible. As an example, I was quite lighthearted in my youth. While I was joking around with my g/f of the day, she said "Don't joke around that's not [i]you[/i]." I considered the statement for a moment and said "actually no, it pretty much is me." Redefining my personality to fit some image she had of what I "should" be was not something I was willing to put up with. In the end, such efforts are usually doomed to failure, because there are some personality traits that you can't and shouldn't change about a person, and that in essence don't NEED to be change. [/QUOTE]

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