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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Agback" data-source="post: 2616662" data-attributes="member: 5328">For me the issue is not that it is a social engagement, but that it is an agreement, a contract. It doesn't mmatter whom you made the contract with. What matters is teh price you have induced them to pay, and the requital you owe them for paying that price. You offer people, whether they be friends or strangers, a deal: "If you will give up other uses of you time, and be at Tony's as 7 on Saturday, I will do the same, and we will be able to play D&D" (or have a black tie dinner, or whatever). If they accept the deal and pay the asking price, they own your time. On the other hand, if they accept the deal and don't go through with the commitment, they are lying welshers who have vandalised your alternative uses of that time.When you stand people up on any rendezvous, you not only make a choice for yourself, you also force a choice on them, willy-nilly. The rights and wrongs of that have nothing to do with where they stand in your children-employer-family-customers-friends-employees-strangers hierarchy. It is not about you.I'm running a game on Thursday nights. To make time for it, I had to re-schedule my weekly family dinners to Wednesday nights, do my game prep, have my dinner early. Thursday before last all four of my players failed to show up. No notice, nothing. Just no shows. They stood me up. Now in effect they were all saying "You are not as important as X". To which my reply is "Maybe not to you, you high-handed, welshing liar. But I am more important than X to me. Imposing a waste of my time on me is not all about you, you self-centred, inconsiderate, mannerless pig."</blockquote>

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