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<blockquote data-quote="Umbran" data-source="post: 5649223" data-attributes="member: 177">I say what follows in an attempt to help you see some things that you apparently don't.&nbsp; I'm sorry it is not flattering, but I hope it is helpful.Hardly.&nbsp; I've been a moderator for years - it takes a whole lot to offend me, personally.&nbsp; I'm telling you it came across as a snotty tone, and there's a purpose in my saying so...Here it is in a nutshell - it is my considered opinion (and, in this, as a moderator you probably should consider me a &quot;trained observer&quot;) that it was in *not* obvious that you were joking.&nbsp; To use the vernacular, there was squat-all in that to indicate you were being light-hearted.&nbsp; It read like something would have been reported for rudeness, had you said it to someone else.And, on top of that, your response was to actively and publicly try to lay the entire blame for the misunderstanding on faults in me, rather than take it to be simple misunderstanding, take some of the blame for yourself, or even (*gasp*, perish the thought) apologize for giving offense.&nbsp; Which brings me to what I said before.&nbsp; Many folks interact very differently in-person than they do online.&nbsp; But, right here, and from other threads I've seen you in, it looks like communication style is an issue for you.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Umbran, post: 5649223, member: 177"] I say what follows in an attempt to help you see some things that you apparently don't. I'm sorry it is not flattering, but I hope it is helpful. Hardly. I've been a moderator for years - it takes a whole lot to offend me, personally. I'm telling you it came across as a snotty tone, and there's a purpose in my saying so... Here it is in a nutshell - it is my considered opinion (and, in this, as a moderator you probably should consider me a "trained observer") that it was in *not* obvious that you were joking. To use the vernacular, there was squat-all in that to indicate you were being light-hearted. It read like something would have been reported for rudeness, had you said it to someone else. And, on top of that, your response was to actively and publicly try to lay the entire blame for the misunderstanding on faults in me, rather than take it to be simple misunderstanding, take some of the blame for yourself, or even (*gasp*, perish the thought) apologize for giving offense. Which brings me to what I said before. Many folks interact very differently in-person than they do online. But, right here, and from other threads I've seen you in, it looks like communication style is an issue for you. [/QUOTE]

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