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<blockquote data-quote="Morrus" data-source="post: 4056693" data-attributes="member: 1">While you are correct, there's a second facet that I don't think you're considering: we [the mods] are not here to educate, counsel or offer therapy; there are far better venues in life for that sort of tihng.&nbsp; We're here to do one thing: keep the peace.So, to a large extent, there's no practical difference between someone being unable and someone being unwilling to be civil; I have every sympathy for the former, and I hope that somehow they are able to find a way to address this in their lives, but I'm neither qualified or inclined to be the person who provides that.People usually get a second, even a third chance.&nbsp; We try to give them the opportunity to fit in, but there's only so much we can do: and if someone is persistently causing flame wars, we're left with little choice, harsh as that may sound.Our usual anaology is that of a casual gathering in somebody's house.&nbsp; The person who starts wrecking the furniture and attacking the other guests may well have very sound psychological reasons for his unpleasant behaviour, but he can't be allowed to continue it at others' expense.&nbsp;&nbsp; He'll be asked to leave; from his POV, maybe he doesn't, or is unable, to understand why he's been asked to leave, but the safety and comfort of the other guests is the primary consideration.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Morrus, post: 4056693, member: 1"] While you are correct, there's a second facet that I don't think you're considering: we [the mods] are not here to educate, counsel or offer therapy; there are far better venues in life for that sort of tihng. We're here to do one thing: keep the peace. So, to a large extent, there's no practical difference between someone being unable and someone being unwilling to be civil; I have every sympathy for the former, and I hope that somehow they are able to find a way to address this in their lives, but I'm neither qualified or inclined to be the person who provides that. People usually get a second, even a third chance. We try to give them the opportunity to fit in, but there's only so much we can do: and if someone is persistently causing flame wars, we're left with little choice, harsh as that may sound. Our usual anaology is that of a casual gathering in somebody's house. The person who starts wrecking the furniture and attacking the other guests may well have very sound psychological reasons for his unpleasant behaviour, but he can't be allowed to continue it at others' expense. He'll be asked to leave; from his POV, maybe he doesn't, or is unable, to understand why he's been asked to leave, but the safety and comfort of the other guests is the primary consideration. [/QUOTE]

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