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Message: <blockquote data-quote="el-remmen" data-source="post: 2550146" data-attributes="member: 11">I love playing D&D and I have a crapload of fun, but I also take it "seriously" to some degree since as DM it takes a lot of time and effort to prepare, and it takes a lot more effort to run the game and be cognizant of a table full of players needs and abilities - as opposed to just one character in front of me.I do game with friends - either people who were my friends before or become my friends through gaming - but as a friend if life become such that making the game on a consistant basis became a problem I would expect them as a friend to bow out (or at the very least to not get too upset when I ask them to bow out) as I really feel it does detract from the game and become an inconvenience to the DM and the other players and leads to a lot more contrivances in the "story" than I (or the people I tend to game with) would like.There is also the matter of playing with "mature adults" - which to me means that they should be responsible to the other people who have made an effort to make it and share the gaming experience - or give them warning to make some arrangement.Here is a specific example:Some time in July we had a session and due to scheduling conflicts I announced that we would not get to play again until August 20th.  Everyone agreed and said that if there was any problem they'd let us know.A week before the session when I send out the reminder email one of the players tells me he can't make it b/c he is going to GEN CON.  I was pissed.  All the other players were pissed.  How long did he know the dates of GEN CON?  How far ahead did he have to put in the vacation days for work?  And he could not have told us with more warning so we could have made an arrangement from the get-go when the date was announced?  At least it was a week's notice - he has a bad habit of "plans he forgot about" which always seem to pop up two days before the session in question.Now we did not play at all that day because, as all the players know, we are near the end of a five year run of a campaign and every player's  (and character's) presence is crucial - but if we had why should he get XP for that day?Obviously, we could not expect him to cancel his trip to GEN CON, but he was inconsiderate.  . .</blockquote>

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