Reply to thread

Message

<blockquote data-quote="Treebore" data-source="post: 3269584" data-attributes="member: 10177">I haven't really seen &quot;hate&quot; on these boards. That is far too strong a word. I think if we help each other to control ourselves we'll find these boards even better.So when we see people &quot;losing it&quot;, instead of jumping in and insult them further, just post &quot;Hey guys, your losing it. Take some time off, take some deep breathes, cool down. Come back when your confident that you can have a discussion rather than a fight. Fighting is not what these boards, or our hobby, is about.&quot;I mean we are all here because we love this game, irregardless of edition we all play some variant of D&amp;D, and I would think we do it for fun. So why come here and lose our tempers and get ticked off?I have been guilty of it in the past. I have been making a concerted effort to remember we all love this game, and just because we differ in our opinions about which rules work or not, doesn't change the fundamental fact we all love playing this particular RPG.So why should I be angry with anyone?So that is why I try my best to avoid &quot;arguing&quot;. I actually find it more of a challenge to debate, which is formallized arguing with manners required.So maybe more of us should adopt my rule of debate. If I am getting the point I wouldn't be willing to sit down with the people I am debating with and share a meal at the next GenCon, then I need to back out of the argument. So I do. I'll go a day or two without posting in that particular thread until I am confident I can go back to it and be civil.I think we should start policing ourselves and help each other to do that. If people get so hung up on arguing that they can't stop, even when asked, then the mods can step in and ban them for a while. Force them to calm down and learn to be civil. If they can't learn, then they get banned.This may be a 3E board, but that doesn't mean we should exclude people who play another edition or iteration. The uniting &quot;force&quot; of this board, and any D&amp;D board, is our love for the game. Not the incarnation of it that we play.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Treebore, post: 3269584, member: 10177"] I haven't really seen "hate" on these boards. That is far too strong a word. I think if we help each other to control ourselves we'll find these boards even better. So when we see people "losing it", instead of jumping in and insult them further, just post "Hey guys, your losing it. Take some time off, take some deep breathes, cool down. Come back when your confident that you can have a discussion rather than a fight. Fighting is not what these boards, or our hobby, is about." I mean we are all here because we love this game, irregardless of edition we all play some variant of D&D, and I would think we do it for fun. So why come here and lose our tempers and get ticked off? I have been guilty of it in the past. I have been making a concerted effort to remember we all love this game, and just because we differ in our opinions about which rules work or not, doesn't change the fundamental fact we all love playing this particular RPG. So why should I be angry with anyone? So that is why I try my best to avoid "arguing". I actually find it more of a challenge to debate, which is formallized arguing with manners required. So maybe more of us should adopt my rule of debate. If I am getting the point I wouldn't be willing to sit down with the people I am debating with and share a meal at the next GenCon, then I need to back out of the argument. So I do. I'll go a day or two without posting in that particular thread until I am confident I can go back to it and be civil. I think we should start policing ourselves and help each other to do that. If people get so hung up on arguing that they can't stop, even when asked, then the mods can step in and ban them for a while. Force them to calm down and learn to be civil. If they can't learn, then they get banned. This may be a 3E board, but that doesn't mean we should exclude people who play another edition or iteration. The uniting "force" of this board, and any D&D board, is our love for the game. Not the incarnation of it that we play. [/QUOTE]

Verification