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<blockquote data-quote="epithet" data-source="post: 7442474" data-attributes="member: 6796566"><p>Maybe.</p><p></p><p>But, maybe, there is a different issue that is also at play here. I can only speak for myself, but I don't care what gender you are. At all. Ever.</p><p></p><p>And as long as we're just casual acquaintances, I never will.</p><p></p><p>Now, I get that for some people, their gender has become the most important aspect of their self image, and has become a thing they think about and fight over and strive toward or away from on a daily basis. I get that for them, it really, <em>really </em>matters what gender they are. It just doesn't matter to me, because it isn't going to change my interaction with any of them in any significant way. It is, for me, a non-issue.</p><p></p><p>Expecting me to remember your custom pronoun, or to even try to, is like expecting me to remember your kid's names. Sure, if we're friends, I'll do that. If we work together, I'll make an effort, out of courtesy. For most of the people I encounter, I just don't care. I'm happy for you to seek fulfillment in whatever form that comes for you. Raise a kid, climb a mountain, explore your gender identity, write a novel... you do you. Just don't expect me to care much.</p><p></p><p>People have this tendency to assume that the big-freakin'-deal things in their life are important to everyone. It's why parents tend to show strangers the pictures of their kid's 3rd birthday party, and go on and on about how "advanced" he is because blah blah blah. As a courtesy, most of us smile and nod at their iPhone screen while we ignore the picture and the anecdote, waiting for the parent to get it out of his system and be ready to get back to business. That same tendency, it seems to me, causes a perception among folks who get exercised about gender issues to divide people into the supportive "with us" group and the combative "against us" group, when--and again, I can speak only for myself--some of us just don't care.</p><p></p><p>That's why I'll call people a "him" or a "her" based on what seems correct, and if someone undertakes to correct me I'll smile and nod and play along, out of courtesy. I'm not going to learn a bunch of new pronouns, because I just really don't care.</p><p></p><p>Now, if we become friends, or co-workers, or family, or whatever--if I do actually care about you--then I'll start caring about what you care about. I'll learn your kids' names--and their birthdays--and I'll read your novel. I'll also take the time to understand any gender identity you care to explain, and--because I now care--remember what you want to be called.</p><p></p><p>Until then, however, I'll just make a judgment call on "him" or "her" and I won't feel bad at all about it if it isn't what you want to hear.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="epithet, post: 7442474, member: 6796566"] Maybe. But, maybe, there is a different issue that is also at play here. I can only speak for myself, but I don't care what gender you are. At all. Ever. And as long as we're just casual acquaintances, I never will. Now, I get that for some people, their gender has become the most important aspect of their self image, and has become a thing they think about and fight over and strive toward or away from on a daily basis. I get that for them, it really, [I]really [/I]matters what gender they are. It just doesn't matter to me, because it isn't going to change my interaction with any of them in any significant way. It is, for me, a non-issue. Expecting me to remember your custom pronoun, or to even try to, is like expecting me to remember your kid's names. Sure, if we're friends, I'll do that. If we work together, I'll make an effort, out of courtesy. For most of the people I encounter, I just don't care. I'm happy for you to seek fulfillment in whatever form that comes for you. Raise a kid, climb a mountain, explore your gender identity, write a novel... you do you. Just don't expect me to care much. People have this tendency to assume that the big-freakin'-deal things in their life are important to everyone. It's why parents tend to show strangers the pictures of their kid's 3rd birthday party, and go on and on about how "advanced" he is because blah blah blah. As a courtesy, most of us smile and nod at their iPhone screen while we ignore the picture and the anecdote, waiting for the parent to get it out of his system and be ready to get back to business. That same tendency, it seems to me, causes a perception among folks who get exercised about gender issues to divide people into the supportive "with us" group and the combative "against us" group, when--and again, I can speak only for myself--some of us just don't care. That's why I'll call people a "him" or a "her" based on what seems correct, and if someone undertakes to correct me I'll smile and nod and play along, out of courtesy. I'm not going to learn a bunch of new pronouns, because I just really don't care. Now, if we become friends, or co-workers, or family, or whatever--if I do actually care about you--then I'll start caring about what you care about. I'll learn your kids' names--and their birthdays--and I'll read your novel. I'll also take the time to understand any gender identity you care to explain, and--because I now care--remember what you want to be called. Until then, however, I'll just make a judgment call on "him" or "her" and I won't feel bad at all about it if it isn't what you want to hear. [/QUOTE]
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