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<blockquote data-quote="The_Universe" data-source="post: 1613682" data-attributes="member: 8944">I find that there's no set formula for maturity, and commitment-mindedness based on age.&nbsp; There are guys I work with that might as well still be in middle school for their relationship maturity level, and then there are people like me (who get married when they are 22). Because maturity is so variable, as long as everybody's legal, it's hard to say who's compatible and who's not.&nbsp; The only way to find out is experience, really.&nbsp; &nbsp;Nonetheless, there are practical considerations.&nbsp; If she's 19 and you're 27 and something long-term works out, you really have to think about your habits.&nbsp; As long as you're in the US, you can't go to bars together until she is 21, nor will be able to (legally) sit down with a nice glass of wine to talk, snuggle, or whatever.&nbsp; It's not an issue if neither you nor your friends drink...but it's something to consider that we often forget to.&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Also, while we're certainly not talking about marriage before the first date, it's something to think about, especially if it's something you're already thinking about. You certainly don't have to tell us if such things have or have not crossed your mind, but if they have, then you might want to try to ascertain if such things are on her mind, as well.&nbsp; If they haven't, then no big deal.&nbsp; &nbsp;For the situation in general, I say go for it.&nbsp; There's no harm in a date.&nbsp; She obviously digs you, and there's no shame in enjoying being &quot;dug.&quot;&nbsp; &nbsp;Have a good time, and let us know how it goes.&nbsp; In the end, it's all about how you&nbsp; feel, and not Mom and Dad.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="The_Universe, post: 1613682, member: 8944"] I find that there's no set formula for maturity, and commitment-mindedness based on age. There are guys I work with that might as well still be in middle school for their relationship maturity level, and then there are people like me (who get married when they are 22). Because maturity is so variable, as long as everybody's legal, it's hard to say who's compatible and who's not. The only way to find out is experience, really. Nonetheless, there are practical considerations. If she's 19 and you're 27 and something long-term works out, you really have to think about your habits. As long as you're in the US, you can't go to bars together until she is 21, nor will be able to (legally) sit down with a nice glass of wine to talk, snuggle, or whatever. It's not an issue if neither you nor your friends drink...but it's something to consider that we often forget to. Also, while we're certainly not talking about marriage before the first date, it's something to think about, especially if it's something [i]you're already [/i]thinking about. You certainly don't have to tell us if such things have or have not crossed your mind, but if they have, then you might want to try to ascertain if such things are on her mind, as well. If they haven't, then no big deal. For the situation in general, I say [b][i]go for it[/i][/b]. There's no harm in a date. She obviously digs you, and there's no shame in enjoying being "dug." Have a good time, and let us know how it goes. In the end, it's all about how [i]you[/i] feel, and not Mom and Dad. [/QUOTE]

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