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Message: <blockquote data-quote="MNblockhead" data-source="post: 7552135" data-attributes="member: 6796661">Follow your gut. This is a game, not a job, and you have no duty to try to make things work.You have a group and group size you like and are not comfortable with this players gaming style. You would be bringing him into the group with the assumption that you can teach and change him. Maybe that is the case, but as in dating and marriage, it generally just creates problems, resentment, and a messy breakup.  Also, you don't sound enthused about taking on the role of game-etiquette and game-mastering coach. Most importantly, how will this impact your relationship with your girlfriend? Maybe she will be disappointed if you don't bring him in and give him a chance. But if things don't work out and if it gets to the point where you want to boot him, it could she that creating negative drama in your relationship--especially if she still wants to continue in his game. It is easy to shrug off potential issues you see when considering a new player, but it is much more difficult to dealing with those issues if they later arise. You have an easy out -- you already have a large group and are uncomfortable bringing on another person. If you strongly feel that you should give him a chance (or show your girl friend that you are), then tell him you can fit in another player, but invite him to join for one session as a guest star, perhaps when someone else can't make it. If he surprises you and gells with the rest of the group, perhaps then you can try to work him in. That give you a way to not invite him back in a way that saves face if it doesn't work out or make him him feel good if he is asked to join as a regular member of the group (the group really liked playing with you and while I normally don't run such large groups, I'll try to make it work).</blockquote>

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