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Message: <blockquote data-quote="epithet" data-source="post: 7757636" data-attributes="member: 6796566">The hell are you talking about, man?The folks who are dismissive of this "X card" concept aren't suggesting some kind of insensitive tyranny at the gaming table, only that people should speak up if they have a problem. The only vigorous expression of "me me me" entitlement is the suggestion that all I should have to do is touch an X card to immediately shift responsibility for my feelings onto the gaming group, which is now compelled to figure out what upset me and act accordingly.A tabletop RPG is not, in fact, a social gathering. It is an activity at a social gathering. The gathering and socializing is a necessary prerequisite for, and might be motivated by, the game. Ultimately, though, "the company of your fellow humans" and those certain social responsibilities that come with it do not arise from the game or at the table, they exist in the larger context of the social gathering at which the game occurs. Your mileage may vary, but when I have interacted with "real-world people" I've understood that along with courtesy and consideration came a responsibility not only to listen to the other people involved, but to clearly express anything I felt was important for them to know.Many of us have been playing D&D and other TTRPGs now for decades, and have been successfully navigating social gatherings for longer than that. The assertion that being dismissive of this "x card" idea somehow makes us "thoughtless jerks" who are unfit to "reap the benefits" of human company has to be the most smugly sanctimonious thing I've heard in days. We are perfectly capable of having a good time with real people, because we take responsibility for our actions and we are considerate of each other, and some of us believe that includes sometimes reaching out to other people and sometimes withdrawing from an uncomfortable situation, but doesn't extend to this "x card" business.I think maybe you need to have a moment of introspection before you accuse other people of not wanting to take other people into consideration, or being unwilling to change. You seem to have a rigid worldview that leads you to vilify anyone that doesn't share it.</blockquote>

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