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<blockquote data-quote="Katerek" data-source="post: 288660" data-attributes="member: 5193">TsyrThere are several approaches that you can take.&nbsp; My initial response would be to tell him to kiss off, but lets face it, here in the real world that usually isn't the option.If I were in your shoes, here is what I would do.&nbsp; This is based on what I have read and inferred from your post.Don't fight him, if he wants the party killed, take a dive.&nbsp; When the party dies, take the blame.&nbsp; Dont act disapointed in him, act disapointed in yourselves.&nbsp; Blame your 'mistake' on burn out.Bear in mind, if he wasn't your friend I wouldn't prescribe this method.&nbsp; Obviously there are emotional issues or you would have already talked to him about it.&nbsp; I understand your plight.After the mistake, everyone take a break, and don't game for a while.&nbsp; Then, try to talk someone else into running, and play it off as an idea that you have really wanted to try for a while.&nbsp; It sounds like your DM is suffering from hardcore burnout and just needs to be on the other side of the screen for a while.&nbsp; This isn't all that unusual.If you cannot find someone else to run, take a break from RPG's in general.&nbsp; Have a game night instead.&nbsp; Play some Magic, or even better, some mindless board games.&nbsp; Do this regularly for a few months and then see if the spark doesn't come back.I have been DMing for almost 20 years now, and I have been like your friend in the past.&nbsp; I found that I have to take at least a month off every year and do absolutely nothing in relation to gaming to keep my stride.&nbsp; I am a pretty popular DM locally, not that I am bragging, and it seems to work for me.&nbsp; Also, you might examine some of the other stressors in his life, he probably just needs a break.Try a different schedule for gaming.&nbsp; My group and I only play 3 nights out of the month, and we always take the month of September off.&nbsp; My campaign has been going on for several years now and it has gone so iincredibally smooth that it is unbelievable sometimes.Give this some thought and let me know what you think, I would be more than happy to act as a further sounding board for you.Later.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Katerek, post: 288660, member: 5193"] Tsyr There are several approaches that you can take. My initial response would be to tell him to kiss off, but lets face it, here in the real world that usually isn't the option. If I were in your shoes, here is what I would do. This is based on what I have read and inferred from your post. Don't fight him, if he wants the party killed, take a dive. When the party dies, take the blame. Dont act disapointed in him, act disapointed in yourselves. Blame your 'mistake' on burn out. Bear in mind, if he wasn't your friend I wouldn't prescribe this method. Obviously there are emotional issues or you would have already talked to him about it. I understand your plight. After the mistake, everyone take a break, and don't game for a while. Then, try to talk someone else into running, and play it off as an idea that you have really wanted to try for a while. It sounds like your DM is suffering from hardcore burnout and just needs to be on the other side of the screen for a while. This isn't all that unusual. If you cannot find someone else to run, take a break from RPG's in general. Have a game night instead. Play some Magic, or even better, some mindless board games. Do this regularly for a few months and then see if the spark doesn't come back. I have been DMing for almost 20 years now, and I have been like your friend in the past. I found that I have to take at least a month off every year and do absolutely nothing in relation to gaming to keep my stride. I am a pretty popular DM locally, not that I am bragging, and it seems to work for me. Also, you might examine some of the other stressors in his life, he probably just needs a break. Try a different schedule for gaming. My group and I only play 3 nights out of the month, and we always take the month of September off. My campaign has been going on for several years now and it has gone so iincredibally smooth that it is unbelievable sometimes. Give this some thought and let me know what you think, I would be more than happy to act as a further sounding board for you. Later. [/QUOTE]

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