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<blockquote data-quote="Maraxle" data-source="post: 288712" data-attributes="member: 5538">This one bothers me the most.&nbsp; 90% of the time, I am the DM in our group.&nbsp; If anything, I am guilty of the opposite.&nbsp; I WANT the players to &quot;win&quot;.&nbsp; I cheer when they make a critical hit, and do my best to give them a fulfilling (and ego-stroking) description of the situation.&nbsp; It makes them happy.&nbsp; Of course, if they make a critical miss, I make sure that something interesting (interestingly bad) happens as well.&nbsp; They really seem to like this.&nbsp; The entire group goes silent, waiting to hear what awful thing is going to happen to their comrade.&nbsp; This silence is generally followed by a cheer and/or some laughter, depending on the situation.&nbsp; What a bunch of sickos...Anyway, back on topic.&nbsp; I know it's tough to sit a friend down and say, &quot;I don't like the way you play.&quot;&nbsp; It's stressful on your relationship, and a lot of people don't take criticism well, even if it is given with the best of intentions.&nbsp; If I were in your shoes, I'd try to lead by example.&nbsp; Offer to run a game.&nbsp; Tell him that you know DMing is a lot of work, and that you'd like to give him a break.&nbsp; Then run the game the way you'd like him to run the games.&nbsp; He might pick up some pointers.&nbsp; Or, if you're so inclined, you might have just found a new DM without excluding your friend from the game. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile&nbsp; &nbsp; :)"&nbsp; data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

[QUOTE="Maraxle, post: 288712, member: 5538"] This one bothers me the most. 90% of the time, I am the DM in our group. If anything, I am guilty of the opposite. I WANT the players to "win". I cheer when they make a critical hit, and do my best to give them a fulfilling (and ego-stroking) description of the situation. It makes them happy. Of course, if they make a critical miss, I make sure that something interesting (interestingly bad) happens as well. They really seem to like this. The entire group goes silent, waiting to hear what awful thing is going to happen to their comrade. This silence is generally followed by a cheer and/or some laughter, depending on the situation. What a bunch of sickos... Anyway, back on topic. I know it's tough to sit a friend down and say, "I don't like the way you play." It's stressful on your relationship, and a lot of people don't take criticism well, even if it is given with the best of intentions. If I were in your shoes, I'd try to lead by example. Offer to run a game. Tell him that you know DMing is a lot of work, and that you'd like to give him a break. Then run the game the way you'd like him to run the games. He might pick up some pointers. Or, if you're so inclined, you might have just found a new DM without excluding your friend from the game. :) [/QUOTE]

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