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<blockquote data-quote="Mycanid" data-source="post: 2889623" data-attributes="member: 40370">Sigh ... I'm so bad at this sort of thing.But all that aside, my gut level response says to let her alone. Don't be nasty or rude or whatnot, just disengage yourself (easy to say, eh?) and move on.Somehow I don't think this may be the simple solution, though. I was told by someone that the most effective way to seperate oneself from something you are interested in is to &quot;replace&quot; it with something that has a more powerful hold on you. And this need not necessarily need be another woman.I can say one thing, though. Usually women think waayyyy different than men in these matters - and it often just doesn't make &quot;sense&quot; to the one why the other is so &quot;illogical&quot; or just doesn't &quot;get the point&quot;.This is why it is very helpful to &quot;attach&quot; yourself to other (presumably healthy) things (note the plural!) that will gain the ascendence in your inner priorities and help balance things out if and/or when a similiar &quot;rush&quot; occurs again, either with the lady you are speaking of in the post or even with someone else later on. This is an excellent way to get &quot;perspective&quot; on things.Of course, articulation of the issues and inner states one is going through, and talking with others is also a helpful way to get perspective too, so I am glad you are at least writing to us all in here.Apologies if I have stepped on your toes or just wasted your time telling you things you already know. Like I said, I'll rotten at this sort of thing....</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Mycanid, post: 2889623, member: 40370"] Sigh ... I'm so bad at this sort of thing. But all that aside, my gut level response says to let her alone. Don't be nasty or rude or whatnot, just disengage yourself (easy to say, eh?) and move on. Somehow I don't think this may be the simple solution, though. I was told by someone that the most effective way to seperate oneself from something you are interested in is to "replace" it with something that has a more powerful hold on you. And this need not necessarily need be another woman. I can say one thing, though. Usually women think waayyyy different than men in these matters - and it often just doesn't make "sense" to the one why the other is so "illogical" or just doesn't "get the point". This is why it is very helpful to "attach" yourself to other (presumably healthy) things (note the plural!) that will gain the ascendence in your inner priorities and help balance things out if and/or when a similiar "rush" occurs again, either with the lady you are speaking of in the post or even with someone else later on. This is an excellent way to get "perspective" on things. Of course, articulation of the issues and inner states one is going through, and talking with others is also a helpful way to get perspective too, so I am glad you are at least writing to us all in here. Apologies if I have stepped on your toes or just wasted your time telling you things you already know. Like I said, I'll rotten at this sort of thing.... [/QUOTE]

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