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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Harmon" data-source="post: 2889824" data-attributes="member: 24357">Three thoughts come to mind-1- Inform her that you need to take a month or six off from her company because your feelings for her are just to strong and you think it might help you to get your life moving away from the two of you being an item.  This will also give her a chance to find someone and thus make her less available in your mind’s eye.  Chances are this might be good for the two of you- or rather for her to get any thoughts of you she has cleared up (though they sound very clear to me- you two ante happening).2- “I love you, I know you said that there is no us.  I cannot hang with you thinking as I do.  We need to end this relationship, here and now for my sanity and for your peace of mind.”Kinda tough love- well not really, but getting away from her will clear up your chances of moving on.3- “Answer me this- is there ever a chance that we might be an item?”The answer will more likes be “no,” and with that you say- “okay.”After which you resume your relationship as friends.  A year later to the day if you feel the same then ask the same question- same reply then say the same thing- “okay.”  Never allow a kiss, or anything that might lead you astray, as the two of you are just friends.  Should she want to get something going in the middle of that year- “I thought you said no?”Chances are you will never be with her, though I would not mind being wrong (it’s a fault of mine).  Wish you both the best, a long life, and all that- good luck.</blockquote>

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