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Message: <blockquote data-quote="TheUnknownSoul" data-source="post: 2890848" data-attributes="member: 41374">Thanks again to everyone's responses.By "concensus", I mean "a lot of people thinking what I already thought, but I was too afraid to vocalize. I'm not sure its the right way, nor am I sure thats what I'm going to do. Ah, too many emotions!Treebore: I think you actually might be on to something. She has described her long list of romances in the past as "loveless" and "didn't want me in the same position". Her two longest boyfriends were desperation acts or time-fillers, and the last person she saw was for purely carnal purposes. Since then, she's wanted to "get away from that" and focus on getting her life in order. However, despite all these "relationships" I think she's looking for that "ideal" person, with whom she will be perfectly compatible. I'm getting the impression I might be one of those time-fillers, but without the emotional attachment. Like her last "boyfriends" I might be someone she can go and do stuff with, but unlike them, she's trying to leave no illusion "we" are anything (and in her mind, letting me down as gently as possible by dispelling any real expectation). Problem is, it failed. I DID get attached, perhaps because I worked so hard to "crack" that armor. Things mean more when you work for them, and a sweet (or maybe not-so-sweet) kiss goodnight was a prize I'd fought for so long, I might have over-read it.The wild card is: does she really think I'm just a friend/brother/timefiller deep down, or am I something else she won't admit, an inconvienent truth (btw: great film) because I don't fit her vision of the future perfectly. (Side note: she wants to move out of state, she hates the winter). And even so, at this point SHOULD I care? In the end, I do though. So I know if I want this friendship to work, I need to look at things differently. It will be a long road yet. Thanks for letting me vent this.</blockquote>

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