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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Arravis" data-source="post: 2891632" data-attributes="member: 327">Personally, I don't think it sounds that doom and gloom. Based on what you've said (look at what's happened closely, and make sure it's happening, not just something you're wanting to happen) it sounds like she might be considering the notion of a relationship. The kissing and other things might be signs of her experimenting with less platonic feelings about you. Is she making a good bit of physical contact? Reaching out to touch you while she's talking to you? Is there any grooming behavior, pushing her hair back, etc? These may all be signs of her attempting to get your attention romantically and to move the relationship forward. Her protests in the opposite direction may simply be her own fears about having surch a relationship. Or perhaps not.I'd give yourself a timeline, devote 3 months (or whatever) to attempting to kindle something between you and her. If it doesn't work in that given time, move on. Let her know it's too difficult and you need some time away. Put the friendship on hold until you're ready to just have a friendship with her and nothing more.  If at the end of that time you still feel the same way, let her know and close the friendship.Of course... I probably wouldn't follow any of the above advise myself, lol. I'd just tell her clearly how I feel, probably show her this thread, and lay my cards on the table. I don't like to waste time, I have too much going on. Perhaps if you're brutally honest about your feelings, the both of you together can work out a strategy on how to handle this.P.S.: Don't be afraid to "risk the friendship". You don't have friendship feelings towards her anyway, so it's not really a "friendship".</blockquote>

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