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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Joshua Randall" data-source="post: 2900016" data-attributes="member: 7737">Well, I don't know why anyone would take dating advice from a message board about D&D, but... since you asked... <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />I have a radical suggestion for Unknown Soul: why don't you explain everything to Kay? I mean everything -- how you've known her for seven years, how you were dazzled by how she looked in that dress when you picked her up, how you've been carrying a torch for her all this time, even how you got so confused that you sought advice (anonymously) on ENWorld.Tell her exactly how you feel and what you want to happen. Do you feel some combination of lust and love but are not sure which is which? Tell her that. (Maybe don't use the word 'lust' because of its negative connotations; maybe say, 'I am incredibly strongly attracted to you.') Do you wish you both could give in to the mutual attraction that is bubbling beneath the surface, and have it blossom into blissful romance? Tell her that.Tell her that you cannot stand living another day with things going on as they have been. Tell her that even though you realize your very act of telling her these things might doom any possible romance, you have to resolve this situation because you are being driven mad by it.If you don't think you can tell her all this in person (and honestly, I probably couldn't), then write it in a letter (a letter, not an e-mail) and give it to her.Then, after she has had time to digest what you've said/written, do not allow her to weasel out of a definitive answer. I don't mean to be insulting with the word 'weasel' -- I mean, you have to force her to help you make a decision: either you two become lovers, or you don't. If the former, great, hope it works out. If the latter, dude, that sucks. Have a beer (or six), mope around for a while, and then get on with your life.Let me close with what may seem like a really stupid analogy, but one that works for me, so... have you seen the movie <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0111732/" target="_blank">With Honors</a>? In this movie, Brendan Fraser plays a Harvard student who is friends with another student played by Moira Kelly (details of the plot are irrelevant). However, Brendan would like to be more than friends with Moira.In one scene, they are at a party, and Moira goes outside for some reason. A minute later, Brendan follows her, walks right up to her, and kisses her passionately. "What are you doing?" she says in surprise."Ending our friendship," is his reply.Unknown Soul, you've got to end the friendship. End. It.I hope this works out for you -- I really, really do. (I'm as big a romantic as they come.) But one way or the other, you must resolve this situation.Now go and do what must be done.</blockquote>

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