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<blockquote data-quote="caudor" data-source="post: 1365688" data-attributes="member: 8367">I've been playing D&amp;D since right around 1980.&nbsp; During the time I've had the good fortune to play with many friends (and family), and several informal but tight knit groups.&nbsp; But also during all these years, I dreamed about going to Gencon to play in RPGA events or maybe getting into a local RPGA club.&nbsp; Well, that never happened until fairly recently.&nbsp; I decided to go to one the local events in my area.&nbsp; I was excited about the opportunity to make some new friends, and see what the experience was like. I had signed up for a spot via the group's webpage and introduced myself on the message board to let them know I was coming.&nbsp; Someone posted a reply to welcome me, and all seemed well... Well for me, it did not turn out anything like I had hoped.&nbsp; This particular group of people seemed to know each other very well, but I got the immediate impression that I wasn't exactly welcome in this circle.&nbsp; While no one was outright rude, I began to pick up the on body language and other signals.&nbsp; It is just one of those things you can 'feel' pretty quickly.&nbsp; And even though I cheerfully greeted the group and introduced myself before the game, one really wanted to speak with me outside the gaming session.&nbsp; In fact, one person openly complained that I sat in his usual seat.&nbsp; So I politely excused myself and moved.&nbsp; Then another person said I had his seat, so I moved again.&nbsp; I'm a person that usually gets along great with just about anyone.&nbsp; So perhaps I just picked the wrong group at the wrong time.So I'm curious, has your experiences with new groups been good or not so good?</blockquote>

[QUOTE="caudor, post: 1365688, member: 8367"] I've been playing D&D since right around 1980. During the time I've had the good fortune to play with many friends (and family), and several informal but tight knit groups. But also during all these years, I dreamed about going to Gencon to play in RPGA events or maybe getting into a local RPGA club. Well, that never happened until fairly recently. I decided to go to one the local events in my area. I was excited about the opportunity to make some new friends, and see what the experience was like. I had signed up for a spot via the group's webpage and introduced myself on the message board to let them know I was coming. Someone posted a reply to welcome me, and all seemed well... Well for me, it did not turn out anything like I had hoped. This particular group of people seemed to know each other very well, but I got the immediate impression that I wasn't exactly welcome in this circle. While no one was outright rude, I began to pick up the on body language and other signals. It is just one of those things you can 'feel' pretty quickly. And even though I cheerfully greeted the group and introduced myself before the game, one really wanted to speak with me outside the gaming session. In fact, one person openly complained that I sat in his usual seat. So I politely excused myself and moved. Then another person said I had his seat, so I moved again. I'm a person that usually gets along great with just about anyone. So perhaps I just picked the wrong group at the wrong time. So I'm curious, has your experiences with new groups been good or not so good? [/QUOTE]

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