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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Elf Witch" data-source="post: 5655538" data-attributes="member: 9037">I was doing some more thinking about this and I realized that in some ways I have never really fit in anywhere.Back in the 70s and 80s I was very involved in literary and Trek cons. I went to my first World Con in 1977 with my then husband. I had been a Trek fan since I was a child and I loved reading SF and fantasy. Robert Heinlein was my favorite SF author back then.But because of the way I dressed everyone just assumed when they met me that I was a mundane who just happened to accompany her fannish husband to events.I am a girly girl I love make up, beautiful clothes, jewelery and have an obsession for shoes. By the time I was sixteen I had mastered the art of liquid eyeliner and false eyelashes.Most of the woman I met in fandom where very anti girly girl they viewed make up as a trapping of Madison avenue and an insult to intelligent woman. So until they got to know me they looked down their noses at me. This started to change as the Goth movement became popular because they used a lot of make up. But even though I dressed like mundane woman I often saw them give me the weird look when I mentioned some SF book I was reading or that I was playing DnD that weekend. But they got to know me and I didn't seem like one of those weird geeky people so I was okay.It is not so bad now a days there is not as big a divide between  woman who like girly stuff and those who don't at least not among younger woman. It is still there with woman my age.It is the same with my religion. I am Wiccan but I don't wear a lot of the trappings. I don't have a lot of occult jewelry and as one of my friends told me I dress and look like a soccer mom. So again when I met new people who are Wiccan they seem taken back that I am too. The same with non Wiccans I have had them say but you seem so normal.I used to own a horse and I barrel raced so the horse people I hung out with for the most part where very country. They were conservative republicans, country western music fans and most were some kind of protestant.I got along fine with them and most who got to know me were a little taken back at first to find a bleeding heart liberal Wiccan, SF and gaming geek had infiltrated their group , but decided that I was actually ok for one of them.It is not that I make a conscious effort to fit in or to appear more mainstream nor do I hide my religion and my hobbies. I am just being me.I have learned one thing from my life that the old saying not to judge a book by its cover is kind of true.</blockquote>

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