Affairs

[Janx]

People are too stuffy and possessive. Maybe some people can just sleep with one person for all of their life, but not all. We should stop the hypocrisy, especially if you are from the school of thought that it is about controlling women's uterus to make sure men aren't spending resources on another man's genes.

That's what divorce or breaking up with somebody is for.

Otherwise it's lying and being dishonest to somebody who you profess to love.

That's not stuffy sexist thinking. It's being nice to other people.

 

[Zombie_Babies]

My thoughts?

Never do business with an (unrepentant) adulterer: a man who cheats on his wife will also cheat you.

Why? Are you a woman he's married to?

 

[Kramodlog]

That's what divorce or breaking up with somebody is for.

Otherwise it's lying and being dishonest to somebody who you profess to love.

That's not stuffy sexist thinking. It's being nice to other people.

Who says you can't love someone and have sex with other people? Who says you can't love many people at the same time? Who talked about dishonesty?

 

[Umbran]

Who says you can't love someone and have sex with other people? Who says you can't love many people at the same time? Who talked about dishonesty?

If you aren't clear and open with your partner about loving another, or having sex with another, then it is dishonesty.

If you talk with your spouse/partner/significant other, and agree that relations with others are okay, then it isn't "having an affair" or "cheating" - you can't cheat if you are within the rules.

But if you aren't above board about it, you're a schmuck.

("You" used generically, not "you, goldomark" specifically)

 

[Kramodlog]

If you aren't clear and open with your partner about loving another, or having sex with another, then it is dishonesty.

What does this have to do with my original post?

 

[Morrus]

Who talked about dishonesty?

Janx did. In the post you quoted.

 

[Janx]

Who says you can't love someone and have sex with other people? Who says you can't love many people at the same time? Who talked about dishonesty?

The title of the thread is Affairs.

An Affair is cheating on somebody. It is lying to your partner about who you share yourself with.

If you're talking about an agreement between all parties involved, that's not an affair.

 

[Janx]

Why? Are you a woman he's married to?

Zig Zigler has a segment on this topic from one of his 7 habits sessions.

this guy's at this nice hawaiian hotel for a conference and Zig sees him looking all melancholy looking over the balcony.

Zig asks how he can be blue in the face of all the natural beauty.

Guy says it's because he's worried about what his wife might be doing while he's out.

Turns out,t he guy met his current wife by way of cheating on his ex-wife.

The lesson being, a guy who cheats, cheats again or distrusts his partners.

As the Aggie saying goes "An Aggie never lies, cheats or steals nor tolerates those who do."

 

[Kramodlog]

Janx did. In the post you quoted.

So why didn't Umbran quote him?

 

[Morrus]

So why didn't Umbran quote him?

Oh, god, just to annoy you of course, like everything else. Just drop it, please.