No, that comment is in reference to a post Umbran made.
Just covering my own bases.
Personally, I'd rather realize I goofed up and issue my own apology.
Once requests for apologies start coming out, it seems to trigger new problems for the apologizer.
feeling forced to do so, denying that it is /was offensive to the other party, etc.
If I was you guys, I would rather Umbran simply chose his words better next time, than press for an apology this time. Otherwise, it can re-open the wound as people seek to prove/disprove he did or didn't say something. ( I really don't know one way or the other and do NOT want to drag it back up).
But that's just me. I can accept a dude back into the pack without making him do the walk of shame. Paula Dean can go back to making food I don't eat. As long as she stops catering dinners with black slaves, I can live with that.
I suspect this is related to the concept of "saving face". Help each other save face. I think we all know to be a lot more careful.
Worst case, if it happens again, try this phraseology (or make a better one, I ain't great at this either):
that statement seems like it implies I am mentally challenged. That's offensive to me. Please find another way of expressing your point.
I think some people call that "killing them with kindness". By being so sincere and squeaky butt clean, the other party is now on the hook for improving their speech or being the jerk. the additional side effect is that we not only haven't called them a jerk, we've left them an out to correct themselves.