"She probably wouldn't have enough in common with a commoner, pardon the pun, to connect with one on such a deep level, but she'd certainly be better off on a personal level with a well-educated and fair-minded minor noble who loves her, assuming she shared the attraction, or even perhaps a non-Rowaini with similar tastes. That's what would be absolutely best for her. But as nobles, and royalty, all of us do have to realise that we were born to great privilege and luxury, but with those things comes a great responsibility as well--we can't always just have what we want, or we become no better than petty tyrants. Commoners may have fewer expensive things, but really they are freer to love and live their day-to-day existence than royalty, and choose whomever they wish to spend their life with. It's inevitable that royalty will not be able to do this for political reasons. If Helena did something like that, it would be like the kidnapping or running away to Amaranthia scenario--we would lose face as a nation and possibly go to war, and she'd likely be hunted down. There are both stories and historical records of ladies and princesses who have done just this and been found, their lover killed, and taken back to be the bride of their captor--usually the man they least wanted to see ever again after he killed their beloved. Now, there are also others who got away too in recent years. I know the families of Celimene Vitale, Aldonza Lorenzo, and Vanessa D'Etoile have all not heard back from their daughters recently. But these are minor nobles whose families were not complicit with the daughter's escape, as far as anyone knows, and who don't seem to have had any major suitors who have the resources to track them down in Wildspace. Helena's suitors have those resources."
