Humanophile
First Post
DeadlyUematsu, way to come into the topic late. I think everyone here is agreeing that Billy's advice works best as a "how to get laid" primer. There are just two problems with that;
One, I think everyone (including Hida himself) accepts that right now, we're working on getting Hida to the point where he can pull these games off. But they're no good when he needs training mostly at learning the ropes.
Two, Hida has some issues that, laid or no, he needs to deal with. And while he certainly shouldn't pass up the opportunity if it presents itself, he's better off focusing on getting himself in order. Making tail into priority number one just guarentees a painful comedy of errors.
Hida, like I said above, your priority now is getting your life in order. That doesn't mean you shouldn't chat up girls; if nothing else it's a confidence booster, social skills practice, and a chance to build yourself a new social circle all in one. (And I've said it before, but it bears repeating; don't worry if you come off as the nice, shy epitome of "just a friend". It may have an atrocious success rate, but at this point in your life friends and confidence are more important than tail. Besides, your firsts will be far more pleasant memories this way than if you make it all about "winning".)
But most importantly, Buttercup's advice about getting some counseling is a Very Good Idea. You need to do a lot of development that most people did long ago. Some sort of guidance on putting the pieces together would be most helpful. Join activities if you can. And it couldn't hurt to follow up on the Aspergers thing. You're online, the worst that can happen is that you don't find the resources available that helpful.
But basically take care of yourself, find activities to get you out and dealing with people while padding your schedule, and try to just work on being more confident and outgoing socially. It'll come in time. And contrary to what some of the above posters might sound like, I'll bet that if you focus on getting your own house in order and being less uptight about how things might look to some hypothetical observer, you'll fit in at least a first kiss within the year.
One, I think everyone (including Hida himself) accepts that right now, we're working on getting Hida to the point where he can pull these games off. But they're no good when he needs training mostly at learning the ropes.
Two, Hida has some issues that, laid or no, he needs to deal with. And while he certainly shouldn't pass up the opportunity if it presents itself, he's better off focusing on getting himself in order. Making tail into priority number one just guarentees a painful comedy of errors.
Hida, like I said above, your priority now is getting your life in order. That doesn't mean you shouldn't chat up girls; if nothing else it's a confidence booster, social skills practice, and a chance to build yourself a new social circle all in one. (And I've said it before, but it bears repeating; don't worry if you come off as the nice, shy epitome of "just a friend". It may have an atrocious success rate, but at this point in your life friends and confidence are more important than tail. Besides, your firsts will be far more pleasant memories this way than if you make it all about "winning".)
But most importantly, Buttercup's advice about getting some counseling is a Very Good Idea. You need to do a lot of development that most people did long ago. Some sort of guidance on putting the pieces together would be most helpful. Join activities if you can. And it couldn't hurt to follow up on the Aspergers thing. You're online, the worst that can happen is that you don't find the resources available that helpful.
But basically take care of yourself, find activities to get you out and dealing with people while padding your schedule, and try to just work on being more confident and outgoing socially. It'll come in time. And contrary to what some of the above posters might sound like, I'll bet that if you focus on getting your own house in order and being less uptight about how things might look to some hypothetical observer, you'll fit in at least a first kiss within the year.