How to tell a friend's girlfriend to get a job or something?

[d20Dwarf]

Yes, stay out of it. Don't use it as a proxy for your own relationships. You can offer him advice, but that's as far as you should go. By "stepping in" and talking to *his* girlfriend, you're only allowing him to continue acting in the way you don't like. In that way, you're a big part of the problem. If you want him to learn to be a man, you can't keep doing the hard stuff for him.

Also, he's 23, and it sounds like he's content paying her bills as long as the sex is good. Once that dries up, or she freaks out (which she will), then he'll move on.

NOTHING BUT BAD CAN COME FROM YOUR INTERFERENCE.

 

[MoogleEmpMog]

Ye gods, how I'd love to meet a 'cute rather than hot' lass who wanted to stay at home!

That's worth working two jobs, writing on the side and maybe selling a bit of blood each week, much less moving to a "lower standard of living."

She should, however, do some household chores and the like. But then, are you sure she actually "sits around doing nothing all day?" Just because someone isn't working in the capitalsocialistselfishcombine of modern society doesn't mean they're unproductive.

Even if you don't envy the chap as I do, stay well, well away from this situation; nothing you do will improve it, and interfering is likely to lose you at least one gaming compatriot, possibly two and a friend in the process.

 

[BourbonFromHeaven]

Imitate with both vocals and gestures, the sound of a cracking whip, each and everytime he enters the room.

 

[diaglo]

Good friends have watched me do it.

but did they take pics or make a video

IYKWIMAITYD

diaglo "likes watching" Ooi

 

[Tewligan]

I would suggest minding your own damn business. He's an adult, not a 9-year-old.

 

[Aeolius]

Granted, Denmark is not the USA, where such things would be illegal, but I find the notion of a 23-year old living with a 17-year old to be a tad disturbing. Throw her back, man, she's not done yet!

Here in North Carolina, even co-habitation is illegal. It is technically against the law for a man and woman to live together, unless they are married. Granted, they rarely enforce that one.

 

[d20Dwarf]

Granted, Denmark is not the USA, where such things would be illegal, but I find the notion of a 23-year old living with a 17-year old to be a tad disturbing. Throw her back, man, she's not done yet!

Here in North Carolina, even co-habitation is illegal. It is technically against the law for a man and woman to live together, unless they are married. Granted, they rarely enforce that one.

Well, that he could even stand to live with a 17-year-old says something about him, but I was trying to avoid going there.

 

[The_Universe]

Easy, go over to his house and play The Offspring's "why don't you get a job." on the CD player.

I once helped drive away a buddy's girlfriend (now his ex, obviously) by having that song appear "randomly" on my playlist whenever she was in our dorm room. HA! Good times!

 

[squat45]

One funny story... (not me, I was just a witness)

Te top player on the high school basketball team was dating the coach's daughter (who was pretty, but not 'hot') and she really was a controlling witch at times. Anyways, after a couple of really bad 'episodes' of the controlling witch in a week's span, a few of this guy's buddies who where lifting weights after school (during basketball practice, obviously, they did not play hoops) put a special song on... now, the weight room was in the balcony above the gym so we could all hear it, and it was accepted...

The song...


Got You By The Balls by AC/DC.

That was the last time the radio was played during basketball practice.

 

[RustyHalo]

I've two things to share:

(1) I'd agree with those who advise, "Stay out of their business." You write that he's given you "permission" to intervene, but it seems that he is trying to triangulate you -- i.e., he wants you in the equation so that it'll be two-against-one (you-n-me against her!). That's a recipe for a mess. Just because he's invited you to a trainwreck doesn't mean you actually have to attend!

(2) Am I the only one who's put out by all those replies that, even in jest, speculate about having sex with this young woman?

Sheesh.