Dioltach said:
And stay away from girls with boyfriends. There's nothing there but heartache.
I met my wife when a woman I'd just met (soon to be girlfriend) introduced me to her and her then-boyfriend.
I say this not so much to contradict what Dioltach says or what he means, but only to point out that there are no absolutes, just overwhelming tendencies. Look not to exceptions like mine for a prediction of what the world holds, but towards the broad strokes that are sometimes imprecise.
People are driven by fairly straightforward, and unromantic, mating urges.
I believe that Warlord is in a place in his life right now, a demographic, which makes dating very frustrating for a guy who isn't the beer-swilling, philandering, jock-mentality stereotype men are made out to be.
I was one of those sensitive-guys stereotypes when I was in my late-teens/early twenties. I'm here to testify that being one makes it hard to achieve the ends that sensitive guys are too often too politely timid to admit they want just as much as anybody else.
Older men use the fact that they are older and more financially established and have thus demonstrated some genetic advantage in living past 25 to secure as many girls of barely reproductive age as they can support and demand mating rights to.
Young women use their youth and health to appeal, first to older mates able to support them while they raise there young, and then to younger, more promising mates.
Young men try to outdo one another to win the affection of some woman who is already mated to someone who can support her children or to win an exclusive mate and get a head start on being an older man.
For all three, there are two pressures: (1) match your own genes with as many possible superior mates as possible and (2) ensure that as many of your offspring as possible live to breeding age. For men, pressure 1 overrides pressure 2. We have the advantage of relatively short minimum commitment to each offspring. For women, their much greater minimum commitment to each birth requires that they be more selective in choosing mates.
This unromantic, brutally pragmatic (in prehistoric, biological terms) presumes that women are almost perpetually pregnant from the time they are able to bear young until they die in childbirth - hence the absence of old women in the model. It also presupposes that polygamy and infidelity are the norm.