In my experience its usually its just the younger players that have the need to stubbornly go where they want ("I don't WANT to go where the DM wants me to, I want to go THERE!!!"). Also it depends on how/where you and your players meet, thus what you and your players backgrounds are. My players and I are all gamists who enjoy a variety of games, all of which have boundaries and rules.
You say it sounds like I play D and D as a video game - I say I play it as "D and D," while you play it as story time. The pendulum swings to each end precisely cuz there is a lot of weight, e.g. fans, both ways.
You say it sounds like I play D and D as a video game - I say I play it as "D and D," while you play it as story time. The pendulum swings to each end precisely cuz there is a lot of weight, e.g. fans, both ways.