The dice cheat is cheater, and the GM has no back bone. The cheater is changing the odds in the game where the odds matter. The GM is allowing this so he is cheating to null out the dice cheat.
I'd be concerned. This isn't normal behaviour. A 30+ year old adult man using loaded dice to cheat in a D&D game?
Whoever is closest to this person should investigate the possibility of getting him some professional help. Don't be angry at him; but his behaviour is not something that normal, well- adjusted people do.
This isn't a gaming issue. It's a mental health issue.
Talk to the DM again. Tell him that it doesn't matter if it doesn't bother HIM, what matters is that it bothers YOU - and THAT makes it an issue the DM should resolve. If it were me I'd tell the DM that it's his obligation to correct this players cheating behavior - as in, it WILL NOT be tolerated, end-of-story. If he could not or would not do so then it would fall to me to take action directly with the player in question. If the player refused to correct his cheating ways well then I'd be taking stock of whether I was enjoying the game enough to tolerate such foolishness on the part of both the player as well as the DM for letting it go on, versus just leaving on general principles.Am I overreacting? Should I talk to the player or just let the DM's passive solution handle it?
Given past "cheating" threads, I think you'll find most folks don't think the odds matter in D&D.
Mainly because there's no winner. And the GM is always arbitrarily deciding your opposition. So whether the next monster you face has BAB20 or BAB15, it's all up to him. And he doesn't have to tell you what the odds are.
No Texas Hold'Em, you got a pair, and the other guy's on a flush draw and you're betting on the Turn that you still got top hand and want the other guy to back out. Yes, the odds matter.
D&D just ain't got nothing where players need to be calculating their odds and making decisions based on those numbers.
There's a world of difference between the DM choosing to use a monster and loaded dice.
If the DM were the one using the loaded dice, would you still believe it doesn't matter that the odds are changed?
This was my first reaction. Are any of his other dice loaded? If he sees he's getting away with this behavior, is that going to prompt him to cheat in other ways as well?To be honest, I'd be concerned about what other stuff this player is cheating at.