Hussar
Legend
Celebrim, your idea of "agnostic stance needs some work.
Ok, I think that's enough cherry picking.
So, exactly how are you not giving Player 1 free reign and not stepping all over Player 2? Your language condemns Player 2 in nearly every single post you've made in this thread. In almost every post you've made, Player 2 is out to squash any playstyle that doesn't agree with his, and uses pretty much every manipulative trick he can.
How is that not painting Player 2 as pretty much entirely in the wrong here?
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Let's go back to Pawsplay's example here for a moment.
First off, a couple of assumptions:
1. Everyone at the table is mature. No one is intentionally being a dick.
2. Everyone at the table honestly believes what they are saying. They are not out to sabotage anything.
Now, the scenario was Player 1 in a superhero game decides to get a very young sidekick a la Batman. Player 2 objects because s/he doesn't feel comfortable with the child endangerment issues.
Ok, so, what happens next?
I would hope that both players sit down and discuss the issue. Perhaps a compromise can be made. Maybe the sidekick could be upped in age to say, 16 and everyone's groovy with that. I dunno, whatever works.
But, for the sake of argument, let's say that a compromise can't be made. Both players are adamant in their positions.
At this point Player 1 has a choice. Which is more important? Playing his character concept or the enjoyment of everyone at the table?
To me, it's as simple as that. That's the entire issue right there. And for me, and anyone I would prefer to play with, they'll choose the enjoyment of everyone at the table every single time. There are ten billion character concepts out there and limiting off one because it's going to make someone at the table feel very uncomfortable seems a pretty easy choice to me.
Apparently, though, some people feel differently. Apparently, for some people, the enjoyment of other players is secondary to their own enjoyment of the game.
I don't play with people like that anymore, fortunately.
This thread is getting less interesting as it goes, but just for the record I'm not claiming that nor is there any thing you can quote by me which would indicate I'm claiming that.
I've actually taken a largely agnostic stance to which of these two theoretical players is in the wrong,
Celebrim said:I think I've made it very clear what my standards are and how I want to treat everyone. But if you insist you just can't comprimise then by all means leave and take your petty dictatorial emo self with you, because you will have left me no room for sympathy.
Celebrim said:Don't expect your hangups to dictate the game that everyone else is here to play.
Celebrim said:On the other hand, we have someone who is escallating some situation by responding to it with some OOC stance and special pleading and appeal to emotion.
Celebrim said:Yeah, so in Hussar's example, who is that expect to get away with it because they have prefaced their stance with something designed to get the listener's empathy, and what exactly is it that they are trying to get away with?
Celebrim said:No, I'm not attacking Hussar personally. I'm describing what I think about this hypothetical player's position, because I want to emphasize that the hypothetical player isn't mildly in the wrong by that point, or isn't merely being 'undiplomatic', is not excused on the grounds of their 'feelings', but has gotten as far into the wrong as they can be. It's twisted and sick position and it should be exposed as such before we find ourselves in that position and lest we comfort ourselves in the false belief that it is defensible and persuade ourselves to feel and act that way.
Ok, I think that's enough cherry picking.
So, exactly how are you not giving Player 1 free reign and not stepping all over Player 2? Your language condemns Player 2 in nearly every single post you've made in this thread. In almost every post you've made, Player 2 is out to squash any playstyle that doesn't agree with his, and uses pretty much every manipulative trick he can.
How is that not painting Player 2 as pretty much entirely in the wrong here?
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Let's go back to Pawsplay's example here for a moment.
First off, a couple of assumptions:
1. Everyone at the table is mature. No one is intentionally being a dick.
2. Everyone at the table honestly believes what they are saying. They are not out to sabotage anything.
Now, the scenario was Player 1 in a superhero game decides to get a very young sidekick a la Batman. Player 2 objects because s/he doesn't feel comfortable with the child endangerment issues.
Ok, so, what happens next?
I would hope that both players sit down and discuss the issue. Perhaps a compromise can be made. Maybe the sidekick could be upped in age to say, 16 and everyone's groovy with that. I dunno, whatever works.
But, for the sake of argument, let's say that a compromise can't be made. Both players are adamant in their positions.
At this point Player 1 has a choice. Which is more important? Playing his character concept or the enjoyment of everyone at the table?
To me, it's as simple as that. That's the entire issue right there. And for me, and anyone I would prefer to play with, they'll choose the enjoyment of everyone at the table every single time. There are ten billion character concepts out there and limiting off one because it's going to make someone at the table feel very uncomfortable seems a pretty easy choice to me.
Apparently, though, some people feel differently. Apparently, for some people, the enjoyment of other players is secondary to their own enjoyment of the game.
I don't play with people like that anymore, fortunately.