Ina perfect world, I would agree with the bulk of you. And I know I am being nonPC and very selfish in saying, "ME!"
It all comes down to "am i having fun?" and I would agree that everyone should have fun, but its up to everyone to make sure that he or she is having fun. I mean, I will try to make it fun for everyone, but at the end of the day, I will do what makes me happy. What makes my char happy.
But of course, there are sacrifices to be made for the sake of teh game. but at the end of the day, If i am not having fun, even if everyone else is, I am not going to keep playing.
Granted, that if I were playing with friends, then the act of hanging out is the most important part- and the game is secondary. but if i were gaming a session and that is the goal, then I will RP my char and play him the way I see him.
\While I am not there to antagonize the group, I am also not there to jeopardize the integrity og my Char to help further another group member.
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