Harassment Policies: New Allegations Show More Work To Be Done

The specter of sexual harassment has once again risen up in tabletop gaming circles. Conventions are supposed to be places where gamers and geeks can be themselves and embrace their loves. Conventions need clear and well formulated harassment policies, and they need to enforce them. In this instance the allegations from multiple women have taken place at gaming conventions and gathering in different locations around the country. In one case, the harassment was took place over the course of years and spilled over into electronic formats.

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The specter of sexual harassment has once again risen up in tabletop gaming circles. Conventions are supposed to be places where gamers and geeks can be themselves and embrace their loves. Conventions need clear and well formulated harassment policies, and they need to enforce them. In this instance the allegations from multiple women have taken place at gaming conventions and gathering in different locations around the country. In one case, the harassment was took place over the course of years and spilled over into electronic formats.


The alleged harasser in these cases was Sean Patrick Fannon, President of Evil Beagle Games, Brand Manager for Savage Rifts at Pinnacle Entertainment Group, as well as being a game designer and developer with a long history in the tabletop role-playing industry.

There is a long and untenable policy of harassment at conventions that stretches back to science fiction and fantasy fandom in the 1960s. Atlanta's Dragon*Con has been a lightning rod in the discussions about safety at geeky conventions after one of the convention's founders was arrested and pled guilty to three charges of molestation. We have also covered reports of harassment at conventions such as Paizo Con, and inappropriate or harassing behavior by notable industry figures. It is clear that clear harassment policies and firm enforcement of them is needed in spaces where members of our community gather, in order that attendees feel safe to go about their hobby. Some companies, such as Pelgrane Press, now refuse to attend conventions where a clear harassment policy is not available.

Several women have approached me to tell me about encounters with Fannon. Some of them asked not to be named, or to use their reports for background verification only. We also reached out to Sean Patrick Fannon for his comments, and he was willing to address the allegations.

The women that I spoke with had encounters with Fannon that went back to 2013 and 2014 but also happened as recently as the summer of 2017. Each of the locations were in different parts of the country, but all of them occurred when Fannon was a guest of the event.

The worse of the two incidents related to me happened at a convention in the Eastern part of the United States. In going back over texts and messages stretching back years the woman said that it "is frustrating [now] to read these things" because of the cajoling and almost bullying approach that Fannon would use in the messages. She said that Fannon approached her at the con suite of the convention, and after speaking with her for a bit and playing a game with a group in the suite he showed her explicit photos on his cellphone of him engaged in sex acts with a woman.

Fannon's ongoing harassment of this woman would occur both electronically and in person, when they would both be at the same event, and over the course of years he would continue to suggest that she should engage in sexual acts, either with him alone, or with another woman.

Fannon denies the nature of the event, saying "I will assert with confidence that at no time would such a sharing have occurred without my understanding explicit consent on the part of all parties. It may be that, somehow, a miscommunication or misunderstanding occurred; the chaos of a party or social gathering may have created a circumstance of all parties not understanding the same thing within such a discourse. Regardless, I would not have opened such a file and shared it without believing, sincerely, it was a welcome part of the discussion (and in pursuit of further, mutually-expressed intimate interest)."

The second woman, at a different gaming-related event in another part of the country, told of how Fannon, over the course of a day at the event, asked her on four different occasions for hugs, or physical contact with her. Each time she clearly said no to him. The first time she qualified her answer with a "I don't even know you," which prompted Fannon after he saw her for a second time to say "Well, you know me now." She said that because of the multiple attempts in a short period of time that Fannon's behavior felt predatory to her. Afterwards he also attempted to connect with her via Facebook.

Afterwards, this second woman contacted the group that organized the event to share what happened and they reached out to Fannon with their concerns towards his behavior. According to sources within the organization at the time, Fannon - as with the first example - described it to the organizers as a misunderstanding on the woman's part. When asked, he later clarified to us that the misunderstanding was on his own side, saying "Honestly, I should have gotten over myself right at the start, simply owned that I misunderstood, and apologized. In the end, that's what happened, and I walked away from that with a pretty profound sense of how to go forward with my thinking about the personal space of those I don't know or know only in passing."

Both women faced ongoing pressure from Fannon, with one woman the experiences going on for a number of years after the initial convention meeting. In both cases he attempted to continue contact via electronic means with varying degrees of success. A number of screen shots from electronic conversations with Fannon were shared with me by both women.

Diane Bulkeley was willing to come forward and speak on the record of her incidents with Fannon. Fannon made seemingly innocent, and yet inappropriate comments about her body and what he wanted to do with her. She is part of a charity organization that had Fannon as a guest. What happened to her was witnessed by another woman with whom I spoke about that weekend. As Bulkeley heard some things, and her witness others, their experiences are interwoven to describe what happened. Bulkeley described this first encounter at the hotel's elevators: "We were on the floor where our rooms were to go downstairs to the convention floor. I was wearing a tank top and shirt over it that showed my cleavage. He was staring at my chest and said how much he loved my shirt and that I should wear it more often as it makes him hot. For the record I can't help my cleavage is there." Bulkeley went on to describe her mental state towards this "Paying a lady a compliment is one thing, but when you make a direct comment about their chest we have a problem."

Later on in the same day, while unloading some boxes for the convention there was another incident with Fannon. Bulkeley described this: "Well, [the witness and her husband] had to move their stuff from a friends airplane hangar (we all use as storage for cars and stuff) to a storage until next to their house. Apparently Sean, while at the hanger, made grunt noises about my tank top (it was 80 outside) while Tammy was in the truck. I did not see it. But she told me about it. Then as we were unloading the truck at the new facility Sean kept looking down my shirt and saying I have a great view etc. Her husband said to him to knock it off. I rolled my eyes, gave him a glare and continued to work. I did go and put on my event day jacket (light weight jacket) to cover up a little."

The witness, who was in the truck with Fannon, said that he "kept leering down at Diane, glancing down her shirt and making suggestive sounds." The witness said that Fannon commented "'I'm liking the view from up here.'"

Bulkeley talked about how Fannon continued his behavior later on in a restaurant, having dinner with some of the guests of the event. Fannon made inappropriate comments about her body and embarrassed her in front of the other, making her feel uncomfortable throughout the dinner.

Bulkeley said that Fannon also at one point touched her hair without asking, and smelled it as well. "[Fannon] even would smell my long hair. He begged me to not cut it off at a charity function that was part of the weekend's event." She said that he also pressed his pelvis tightly against her body while hugging her. These incidents occurred at a convention during the summer of 2017.

Fannon denies these events. "The comments and actions attributed to me simply did not happen; I categorically and absolutely deny them in their entirety."

When asked for comment, and being informed that this story was being compiled Fannon commented "I do not recall any such circumstance in which the aftermath included a discourse whereby I was informed of distress, anger, or discomfort." He went on to say "The only time I recall having ever been counseled or otherwise spoken to about my behavior in such matters is the Gamers Giving/Total Escape Games situation discussed above. The leader of the organization at that time spoke to me specifically, asked me to be aware that it had been an issue, and requested I be aware of it in the future. It was then formally dropped, and that was the end of it until this time."

There were further reports; however, we have respected the wishes of those women who asked to remain anonymous for fear of online harassment. In researching this article, I talked to multiple women and other witnesses.

About future actions against the alleged behaviors he also said "It is easy, after all, to directly attack and excise obviously predatory and harassing behavior. It is much more difficult to point out and correct behavior that falls within more subtle presentations, and it's more difficult to get folks to see their actions as harmful when they had no intention to cause harm, based on their assumptions of what is and isn't appropriate. It's good for us to look at the core assumptions that lead to those behaviors and continue to challenge them. That's how real and lasting change within society is achieved."

Fannon's weekly column will no longer be running on E.N. World.

Have you suffered harassment at the hands of someone, industry insider or otherwise, at a gaming convention? If you would like to tell your story, you can reach out to me via social media about any alleged incidents. We can speak confidentially, but I will have to know the identity of anyone that I speak with.

This does open up the question of: At what point do conventions become responsible for the actions of their guest, when they are not more closely scrutinizing the backgrounds of those guests? One woman, who is a convention organizer, with whom I spoke for the background of this story told me that word gets around, in the world of comic conventions, when guests and creators cause problems. Apparently this is not yet the case in the world of tabletop role-playing game conventions, because there are a growing number of publishers and designers who have been outed for various types of harassing behavior, but are still being invited to be guest, and in some cases even guests of honor, at gaming conventions around the country. The message that this sends to women who game is pretty clear.

More conventions are rolling out harassment policies for guests and attendees of their conventions. Not only does this help to protect attendees from bad behavior, but it can also help to protect conventions from bad actors within the various communities that gather at our conventions. As incidents of physical and sexual harassment are becoming more visible, it becomes more and more clear that something needs to be done.

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Testimony by the victims IS proof!

I realize the poster has already been thread banned, but just wanted to emphasize this point. If people complain about your inappropriate behavior, that is not hearsay, it is proof.

Evidence, not proof.

(Scientist, not Lawyer.)

EDIT: Looks like somebody already pointed that out.
 
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You came to a thread about harrassment and advanced the position that, if one takes you seriously, the accusations against Harvey Weinstein are without value until such time as a trial takes place even if they are true.

That is staggering, honestly, and I think you could benefit from re-examining that stance.

so you compares Weinstein and SPF ? how ridiculous.

If I believe Wikipedia : there is more than eighty complainers in the Weinstein case and the man admitted himself he was sick & guilty, besides, a lot of people knew but did not talk...you cannot compare apples & oranges...so step off this discussion, you don't know your subject.
 


Catulle

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so you compares Weinstein and SPF ? how ridiculous.

If I believe Wikipedia : there is more than eighty complainers in the Weinstein case and the man admitted himself he was sick & guilty, besides, a lot of people knew but did not talk...you cannot compare apples & oranges...so step off this discussion, you don't know your subject.

So, multiple accusations and an admission of wrongdoing?

Right?

ETA: Look, I get that you want to walk back your statement that being on the internet plus not having gone to trial equals no value to the truth. I agree with that; I utterly think you should chalk it up to poor formulation and reconsider - but it's a difference of degree, not kind and that's what I'm trying to raise to your awareness here.
 
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I don't like comparing SPF who has not been harassing someone deliberatly to Weinstein who did. Besides, SPF had made a formal apology 20 hours ago on its public facebook wall and since it is a public publication, I copy-paste it here :

The first instinct of the privileged when they sense they are under attack is a vigorous and spirited defense.

The first instinct of the marginalized is something quite different – acceptance, retreat, avoidance, all the while hoping others don't jump in to elevate the attack any further.

That's something I should have parsed from the very beginning of all of this. I followed my first instinct, from my position of privilege, and engaged in a vigorous and spirited defense. I sought to assert facts and point out nuances; I sought to establish problems with how the article was put together, what was missing, who might have cause to do me harm...

None of that matters.

We are in a very difficult, but very important time in our growth as a society. We are trying to tear down barriers that lie in the way of those who have suffered. We are trying to open doors, shatter ceilings, and give protection to the millions who have suffered in silence, or who were silenced.

The details of the EN World article, frankly, don't matter anywhere near as much as I wanted to believe. What matters is that I have in some way caused damage. I have acted in manners that have caused others harm and discomfort.

What matters more is that an effort is undertaken to hear those who are in pain, giving them cover and comfort to come forth, while those like me take every such situation and reevaluate every way in which we've created discomfort and a lack of inclusivity.

I am sorry to anyone who has ever been caused harm by my actions, intentional or not. You should be a part of community without ever having to feel afraid or disgusted or objectified, and I will continue to do all I can to work towards that.

That is all that truly needs to be said about this.
 


Jeanneliza

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You mean like Rev. Billy Graham and VP Mike Pence have been known to do (never alone with a woman not their wife)? They were right to be cautious and dignified about it, but got ripped in the popular press for being "old-fashioned" and maybe a little crazy.


This is most certainly true.

You have hinted at the real solution a few times: bring up boys to become young men who understand the standards of Gentlemanly conduct. And girls to become Ladies.
For the ones who are already grown up, social pressure to become more gentlemanly.
Someone else all ready pointed out the thing that most struck me about your response last night but I wanted to sleep on it before I responded. You suggested we start teaching our sons etc the rules of gentlemanly conduct and raise girls to be ladies. I get you are trying to be even handed and balanced here BUT.....
Women are all READY required to conduct themselves in "ladylike ways" to avoid accusations of "asking for it". This is how it has ALWAYS been. You ignored my point that men should be held to that same standard of self-protection all ready imposed on women. I have been taught since infancy literally how to sit, dress, act and talk in the presence of men so they would recognize I was a "lady" and not harass me. Again, shifting the burden for her safety entirely on to the woman is the double standard I was decrying there.
Now as for the term "lady". Lady is a rank of nobility, I have no papers or patent of nobility, therefore I ain't no lady. And that still doesn't mean it is okay to harass or assault me.
I have grandsons and if I heard the defense of an admitted harasser or their own bad behavior I have read here coming out of their mouths I would be upside their heads with my whippersnapper trainer.
Teach the boys guys, because statistically they are a bigger problem than the few known cases of false allegations which, since we know about them were clearly proven false. However assailants get away with their crimes quite regularly. I could list endless cases here as proof, but if you are unaware of them all ready I would just be filling up thread space.
There is also the see something/say something rule. Learn to recognize when a woman in your group is feeling uncomfortable and speak up.
Of course another solution is electrical charged body suits for women. Put your hand on it without consent, which would be given by deactivating the shock feature of the suit, and take a few hundred volts. That sounds extreme right? So is wearing body cams, and all the other suggestions that have been put out there suggesting women document their assaults better.
I have seen a lot of statements about what women should do to be safer, I want to hear what MEN should do. As I said, not assaulting or harassing women is a good start.
 

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Jeanneliza,

Your posts are great. Keep it up.

One part I find compelling is your response to the whining complaint, "But with all this #metoo stuff men won't even be able to be friendly, because they will be so afraid of being misunderstood and accused of something. (wa-wa-waaaaa....)"

As you rightly pointed out, women have been taught something exactly like this for decades and centuries: don't flirt, don't go to parties, don't be alone, don't drink, don't wear anything sexy, don't stay out past 10:00....if you do then whatever happens to you is your fault.

God forbid that men should also have to be careful when socializing. We should be able to be drunken @$$sholes without repercussions, right?
 

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The first instinct of the privileged when they sense they are under attack is a vigorous and spirited defense.

The first instinct of the marginalized is something quite different – acceptance, retreat, avoidance, all the while hoping others don't jump in to elevate the attack any further.

That's something I should have parsed from the very beginning of all of this. I followed my first instinct, from my position of privilege, and engaged in a vigorous and spirited defense. I sought to assert facts and point out nuances; I sought to establish problems with how the article was put together, what was missing, who might have cause to do me harm...

None of that matters.

We are in a very difficult, but very important time in our growth as a society. We are trying to tear down barriers that lie in the way of those who have suffered. We are trying to open doors, shatter ceilings, and give protection to the millions who have suffered in silence, or who were silenced.

The details of this article, frankly, don't matter anywhere near as much as I wanted to believe. What matters is that I have in some way caused damage. I have acted in manners that have caused others harm and discomfort.

What matters more is that an effort is undertaken to hear those who are in pain, giving them cover and comfort to come forth, while those like me take every such situation and reevaluate every way in which we've created discomfort and a lack of inclusivity.

I am sorry to anyone who has ever been caused harm by my actions, intentional or not. You should be a part of community without ever having to feel afraid or disgusted or objectified, and I will continue to do all I can to work towards that.

That is all that truly needs to be said about this.

Talking about and exposing patterns of bad behavior (and worse) is an important part of solving the problem. The more we talk about it the more aware of it we all become, the more we will think about our own actions, and where we (and Im very much including myself in this) could have and should have acted better in the past.

Ignoring bad behavior normalizes it. Then worse behavior starts to become normalized.

Some of us will learn after being exposed to a message once, some of us need to be told many times to understand.
And some of us just dont get it.
Having our bad behavior exposed to everyone is one damn good way to really make us listen.

So fellow men - if the message hasnt sunk in, if you havent yet understood that our behavior can and should be better - maybe you will get the pleasure of all of those around you learning abut your behavior publicly and then, maybe then you will really listen. Thats not a threat - its a plea - a plea to everyone to really make an effort to act properly.

Im sure Mr Fannon has not enjoyed this experience but it has helped more people hear the message and hopefully more of us to take stock of our own behavior and to do better. We all make mistakes and we can all do better.

There are lots of things in this thread that are not simple. However doing the right thing ourselves and expecting those around us to do the right thing will go a long way. I know when these types of topics first started coming up I had to re-evaluate things that I had taken for granted and acknowledge that my behavior should have been better at times.

I cant change what has happened. But I can do better now and in the future.
 

RedJenOSU

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Surely pointing fingers, in the sense of identifying harassers, has to be part of that? A harasser must be identified before they can be removed from a convention or banned from attending.

Harrassment is a systemic issue, so getting rid of it needs a systemic solution. If we rely on punishing individuals who harass to solve this issue, then we never deal with the underlying cause of harrassment.

Changing the way we socialize boys to know that women NEVER owe them sex. That a female's body is her own and noone else's, regardless of where she is, what she is wearing, or what she has ingested does not alter her body autonomy. This social change would go a long way to curb harrassment. This is an example of a systemic approach.
 

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