Why is saying it plays like a videogame 'insulting to pnp fans' - - it feels to me like a situation where people are choosing to be insulted. Many people feel that it plays this way to varying degrees, including people who love this new edition.
I find it insulting to even insinuate that. I've been playing D&D for a long time, and if I don't qualify as a P&P Fan, than my bookshelves have lied to me.
I would also suggest that if there are instances where it begins to sound like people have memorized a complaint, it may be a sign that the complaint is in fact VALID. I can't tell you how many times people have warned me not to eat raw chicken, and I'm frankly tired of their rote complaints about the issues with doing so.
The internet doesn't allow for admission of valid points for the "other side", so you have to instead be insulted.
Points where 4e is like WoW:
Tightly defined class roles: check
Minor variations within the class to pretend to be more different than it is: check. (talents vs sample builds)
Disenchanting to reduce to generic stuff to use to enchant: Check (Actually, WoW was first here, has better variety too)
Recharge Time: check (replace short rest with 2 minutes in WoW, or long rest with 30 minutes in WoW)
Races that add minor benefits, with no weakeness: check
Lots of combat powers that require little adjudication: check
I mean, really, what sets it apart? Quest XP? oh, whoops...