The Real Housewives/husbands of your RPG Group

[Mark CMG]

Describe your spouse, whether a gamer or not, in respect to what they think of your gaming. If you can get them to post or at least quote them directly, all the better. If you want to (even can) do so, elaborate on the spouses of others in the group. Be diplomatic, please, for the sake of the children.

 

[kitsune9]

My wife is not supportive of my hobby, but is not antagonistic about it.

Only one other in my gaming group has a spouse, the others are.....girlfriendless....She's neutral about his hobby.

 

[GreyLord]

My spouse is asleep at this time. She enjoys being a player. She enjoys being a DM, but not if I'm a player of the group. She'll kick me out even. She says I'm too chaotic a player...or if she allows people to be, I create to much of a munchkin character and then state that she said we could...aka...I abuse her allowances.

(My opinion, if I may say so...is she likes a railroad game...I play more of a sandbox character that thinks outside the box...which typically gets to the end of her campaign before it really begins...or goes outside of what she thought should happen...like the time I decided to burn the bad guys out of a hotel by burning the rose bushes around it and hence burning the building down from the bottom up...got them out...pretty nicely singed...but she wasn't happy with my solution. I think she expected us to battle our way up instead of having everything come to us if they chose to escape...or burn up instead).

She likes to follow the group more than lead the group. She likes me as a DM. Most spouses I've had are actually more into the game than their spouse...at least the RPG part. Hmm, actually, I suppose it would mean the wife was the actual gamer and the husband was more the tag-along?

In that case, the husbands were more wanting to play simple characters, like a barbarian that goes forward and just fights, or a Fighter that just goes forward and fights...or a Paladin that just goes forward and fights...or a Ranger that...you get the idea.

I don't think I've DM'd many couples where only one of them played and the other did not. Actually, I have now that I think about it. Normally they go and do their own thing like watch TV or something like that. Overall I get more singles who play than couples. As I said though, oddly enough, with most of the couples it's been the wives who are more the Roleplayers, and the husbands who come tag-along. I've had a few husbands that brought wives as tag-alongs as well...but normally they were at least willing to give the game a try.

Not many wives have actually been the DM however. My wife has been, but as I said...she doesn't really like me in the group when she does so. She says I'm a LOT better as a DM than a player.

 

[Aus_Snow]

I play (sometimes as GM/DM) in more than one group, but sure.

My partner is also a gamer, of both TTPRGs and PC games. And we're in accord wrt a lot of things there. Not everything, but enough to get by. Besides, difference of opinion can be a great thing at times. But anyway, she loves RPGs, just as much as I do. So, heaps.

One other player's partner is ambivalent, but that's the worst of it. She's just not interested in playing, herself, seeing it as one of her man's hobbies, pure and simple. I've never heard a negative word about it, not even second hand.

Another sometimes DM/GM's partner is a gamer too, and he's just as keen on RPGs as she is. Really, as per my situation, more or less.

One player's partner has played sometimes, but most often doesn't. But she's totally cool with it.

Yet another sometimes DM/GM's partner is a gamer too, and in fact he'll also DM/GM at times. Once again, this is a bit like us, I guess.

One player's partner is as keen a player as he is, but - like him - won't GM/DM. Well, neither has, anyway, so far.

One player doesn't currently have a partner. Actually, that goes for two of them. There have been times when one of them has DMed/GMed.

Another player's partner doesn't game at all, and will jokingly mock or tease. But it really is "jokingly". Nothing worse. She's very much dedicated to her gamer partner, and a lovely person, what's more, to most.

And lastly - at the moment! - one player's new partner is curious about it all, and she might just try some gaming soon.

Don't think I left anyone (current) off the list. Hm...

 

[Haltherrion]

My wife is not a hardcore gamer; Clue, Scotland Yard and the occasional Risk game is about as far as she'll go. But she has always been extremely supportive and did give it a go.

As for a quote, from the one time she tried the game: "You guys talk too much. I just want to kill things." She wasn't a big fan of discussing what to do next...

Oh and the ever famous "I want the boobs of leaping and striding"

 

[C_M2008]

My wife doesn't get it, and teases me mercilessly about it, but will allow me to splurge on the occassional RPG item.

She hasn't shown any direct interest yet, but does play video game RPGs, I think it's the roleplaying - talking in character that throws her.

 

[lamia]

I'm not planning to ever marry again, as my ex-husband taught me that a marriage license turns some people into monsters.

But my boyfriend is quite supportive, as I got him back into gaming. My clever ploy to get him to go out with me was to get his number from a mutual friend and ask him to run a game for us. It's nice because he isn't bothered by all the time I spend prepping since he's a player in my group. He knows the more time I spend planning, the more fun it will be for him to screw it all up on game night!

The rest of my players are a married couple, who of course support each others gaming, a lady who's boyfriend thinks it's kind of weird but doesn't give her too hard a time, and a single lady who I'm hoping finds a nice gamer some day.

And the group I'm a player in is just the boyfriend DMing, me, and another couple.

I kind of decided I was done dating guys who weren't at least willing to have a go at gaming with me. It's just easier than dealing with the jealousy issues and such.

 

[Dice4Hire]

I have been married 20 years to a non-gamer, but she supports my Saturday nigh boys night, which is D&D mostly.

Player #1 had a very long relationship that finally ended in marriage a few months ago. WE play at his place and his wife does not mind, though she does not play.

Player #2 will get married at the end of this year, an thus far, I have no idea how it will affect things, though she is a non-gamer too, as far as I know.

So just us three boys and a very occasional fourth in our group.

 

[Olaf the Stout]

My wife is a non-gamer and has no interest whatsoever in playing. I'm fine with that I she is too. I would say that she is somewhere between supportive and tolerating of my gaming.

For example, we play once a fortnight at our house (and have done so for over 4 years now), so she doesn't mind me playing. However, if I suggested that we were switching to weekly sessions I don't think she would be very happy about it at all.

Sometimes she is happy to help out with my game. For example, each year at Christmas we have a "Christmas session" and she will decorate the table with all things Christmasy, put a tablecloth and Christmas napkins out, etc., which is obviously an effort that she doesn't have to make but does so for me.

On the other hand, sometimes she will complain about the amount of time I spend getting ready for the game (I'm the DM) or say that I care more about gaming than I do her and our children.

So it can be a moving line when it comes to my wife and my gaming. Overall I'm happy with my gaming balance. I'd like to do more, but I also understand that I need to make time for my wife and kids as well.

Olaf the Stout

 

[thejc]

My wife detests it. She teases me without any hope of reprieve. I can't even wink at a good fantasy movie preview(Take Season of The Witch) without hearing about the time my wife caught me playing "Oblivion" with a cloak about and talking to myself. So much so she posted about it on several social media sites.

It was actually a blanket and it was last winter, I was playing oblivion but it was cold and I was not talking to myself. I was on the phone and she was in the bathroom and "overheard" the "conversation".

Although recently I've started playing a supers campaign with my 9 year old son, and she likes that because "He loves it". But I'm not complaining.

sincerely the cloak wearing dweeb from Indiana